I wasnt sure whether to post here or teens - I may try both.
Has anyone tried the relate family counselling - i am running out of resilience to deal with constant battles with twin DC age 16.
I know the underlying issue is an extremely acrimonious divorce where the upshot is the kids are having to change schools and leave behind their friends and move from the family home. This has all been manipulated by the X in his attempt to destroy me but the end result is it is destroying the kids.
I get the full brunt of their anger as X will not discuss anything with me or them other than basic requirements. The kids are caught in the middle despite my best attempts for this not to happen because the X continually undermines my parenting with game playing )I have seen the evidence of this on my DDs phone) and refuses to acknowledge that the "divorce" is having any detrimental impact on the kids despite my DS talking about hating his life and sometimes "wishing" he were dead.
I have a huge back story - too long to post here - but have been a frequent poster.
I am currently having counselling for my own support as I suffer with long term depression (which was significantly minimised by the judge and X in the court hearing despite evidence from MH) and the kids are now using this against me when i try and enforce boundaries - saying I am unreasonable and unstable and not normal like other parents.
i know a lot of this is general teenage issues but my DS was punching the wall last night in anger/frustration.
My only option when I run out of ability to cope is to send them to stay with their DF - he does not instigate having a fair split of contact during the holidays and so this comes across as "punishment" but it is me being desperate for a break.
My kids are good kids - they have made me so proud in how they have got through their GSCEs - they are now having to face huge consequences which is so unfair on them. ( im blubbing now)
I need some help to get through this next bit before we tear each other apart and I end up in a looney bin (no offence meant here) because i can no longer do this on my own.