New partners being critical of your children and how you raise them. Is this a recognised thing ?

[Luncharmstrong]

I've seen threads here where `OP describes the scenario where a partner moves in and is critical of the parenting skills of the parent , their partner.

My partner of a few years tried this a bit at the start. I tried to placate him and be the peacemaker and became a bit stricter with my teenage children . No bad thing really - they now always clean up after meals etc and keep their rooms decent which I didn't insist on prior to DP.

But he still would try to criticise my children for being lazy and suchlike. Saying I was too soft on them etc.

I woke up to this and stood up to him and told him not to ever criticise my children and things are better now.

So is this a common situation?

No idea if it's common but any new DP would get his marching orders if he tried that with me tbh.

Yes, it's common where the new DP is a prat but not otherwise.

It's got to be difficult for a new partner moving in with a family.

They are damned if they do try to parent (which they should be able to have a say on in their own home), damned if they don't.

Doesn't excuses them being a dick though.