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DH pregnancy reaction

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Bigmomma28 · 23/06/2017 23:08

Hi ladies
I just told DH I might be expecting. He doesn't seem happy or sad about it.
What was your partner's reaction when you announced your pregnancy?

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Kentnurse2015 · 23/06/2017 23:10

Were you trying? Maybe he just isn't sure how to react. Mine didn't leap for joy but I could see he was pleased both times.

PlaymobilPirate · 23/06/2017 23:11

Mine barely reacted - and hardly mentioned me being pregnant throughout.

I'd see his friends and they'd say 'he's so excited, he's been telling us all about the plans for the nursery' when he'd said very little to me.

It was upsetting - we rowed about it and I still feel hurt. He has no explanation and says he acted like a normal bloke!

Oddsocksforeveryone · 23/06/2017 23:16

3rd one, he was in a shop when I told him and he dropped something.
This one (4th) we were both in shock and up until about 20 weeks he just kept forgetting about it so probably in denial as I was obviously pregnant.

DuggeeHugs · 23/06/2017 23:19

You say in your post 'might' be expecting; perhaps he's waiting until you know for sure one way or the other? Doesn't wasn't to get his hopes up/worry unnecessarily without a positive test

ThePinkOcelot · 23/06/2017 23:20

First pregnancy was a surprise. DH acted like a total dickhead and I was never sure whether I would be a single parent or not. He did come to appts etc. Great when dd was born. Won't forget it though.
Dd2 was planned. He came to appts etc but didn't get overly involved.

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Bigmomma28 · 23/06/2017 23:22

We haven't been actively trying but haven't been very keen with the birth control Smile.
I did see his eyes widen a bit.... It will be our second if I am. Just wish he would be happy about it and let me know he's happy

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celeryeater · 23/06/2017 23:26

My boyfriend didn't seem happy or sad... But it was because he'd known a lot of people to have problems with infertility and didn't think me being pregnant necessarily meant we would have a baby. He started to take it seriously and get excited by my third trimester though.

BlahBlahBlahEtc · 23/06/2017 23:29

Mine was terrified. Complete man child! Took him months to calm down a bit lol!

Finola1step · 23/06/2017 23:30

You said "might be". He's waiting for a yes or no to process the info. If I was your dh, I wouldn't have much of an emotional response until I know. What's the point...I.might get all excited and then be disappointed.

AConvivialHost · 23/06/2017 23:30

First pregnancy 11 years ago, he didn't really speak to me for a week when I told him.
Second pregnancy last year, he didn't speak to me for 3 days after I POAS.

He is the best husband and dad, ever, he just needed a little time to adjust.

I think it becomes real for the dad once you have the scans.

NorthernLurker · 23/06/2017 23:35

It really is very different for men. That isn't an excuse for behaving like a dick but it's very common for men to be pleased but not effusive about announcements. Very different when the baby is actually in front of them and they are both hugely proud of their own virility and hugely, hugely proud and in awe of what you've just gone through to produce said wonder child.

Blackbarbie1234 · 23/06/2017 23:41

After trying for almost four years and one miscarriage. My hubby was really happy.

KungFuPandaWorksOut16 · 24/06/2017 08:45

My husband thought I was joking and when he seen the test was completely shocked and was until the scan.

His reaction was normal though, caught pregnant on the coil. We had obviously spoke about children and they was in the plan but more in the future. He got excited after the scan when we was given the ok that baby was fine. We had been advised that there may not have been a heartbeat when we went for scan due too me having the coil in or it could be an eptopic.

ChicRock · 24/06/2017 08:50

I "might" be pregnant isn't really anything to react about.

mumonashoestring · 24/06/2017 08:53

Just wish he would be happy about it and let me know he's happy

Well I can definitely understand not wanting to get too excited over a 'maybe'. And it really can be a lot harder for the person who's not carrying the baby to get excited over it until there's a scan or a bump or something to make it a bit more 'real' to them.

laurzj82 · 24/06/2017 08:55

My OH and I were trying for just under a year. Not long in the grand scheme of things but seemed like an age to me. I told him and he said "Oh cool." Hmm

He is a man of few words anyway but I admit I was disappointed that he didn't do much excitement for the whole pregnancy. He is an amazing dad though. In a lot of ways he is a better parent than me.

PastaOfMuppets · 24/06/2017 12:30

Does he want you to be pregnant right now?
You say you weren't actively trying but hint that you yourself kind of let it happen.
Is he aware that you were trying to conceive?
Did he tell or show you that he wanted a second child now?
Might he be waiting to actually know for sure? (If I told my DH that I might be expecting, he'd probably say something stupid like "I might be too, but I'm pretty sure I'm not.")
Might he be worried about money or how your family could make it all work?
Have you said to him that you wanted a reaction? Or that you want him to act happy?

ZefStar · 24/06/2017 13:25

Well, you said you 'might be', so I guess as far as he's concerned you're not pregnant. How should he respond to the announcement that you aren't pregnant?Confused

SparklingRaspberry · 24/06/2017 13:50

I never understand why women tell their partners they 'might' be pregnant????

You either are or you're not.

Get a grip and take a test, then if it's positive you've got something to tell your partner.

I always look at telling him you 'might' be pregnant as messing with his head. You're either gunna get his hopes up or you're gunna cause him unnecessary worry depending on his thoughts towards having a baby.

Cut all the drama and actually find out for certain Confused

VimFuego101 · 24/06/2017 13:51

But have you actually done a test?

Joysmum · 24/06/2017 15:25

Mine was detached and cold. Turned out he was petrified but it took ages for him to say after I broke down because of it. After that we were scared together and we went back to being close again.

MommaGee · 24/06/2017 15:34

There nothing to get happy about atm though. If he gets excited and your not his going to be disappointed.

POAS.
TELL HIM.

then see how he reacts.

I hope you get the result you want from your piddled on stick x

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