New neighbor is convinced DH is cheating on me because I’m the only woman he’s been with sexually

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I’ve only slept with one man. DH has only slept with one woman. I’ve been with DH for over 40 years. We got together when I was 17 and he was 19. Fell pregnant with twins at that age, too. I had experienced sexual stuff with boys prior DH, but never intercourse.

I was disowned when I was pregnant and DH was an orphan so he had no family. Being young parents and being on our own was very difficult. We had our moments of great arguments and disagreements (those first couple of years – woo boy!) but at no point did we ever feel we were on the brink of breaking up. We loved each other, and the fact that our sons needed us to be at our best definitely reinforced our union.

We have a new neighbor. She moved in 3 months ago. She has been divorced 3 times. Right now she’s in a phase of casual dating. Last weekend we had a little together with some of the parents in the neighborhood at our house. Wine loosens the tongue, and we got talking. The topic ended up to I and DH’s marriage. The neighbor couldn’t believe that neither of us had been with another person.
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Three days ago she sent me a text – she’s convinced DH is cheating on me because “men are incapable of staying faithful to one woman for their entire life" (I find such a statement ironic since she did admit she cheated on her second husband). She said “men need to see different vaginas” (I’m quoting her word for word here!). She added that I should watch him closely.

I showed it to DH and we laughed for a long time. Yesterday, she sent me another text reiterating her stance. Initially I and DH found it amusing. Now it's just annoying.

Yes because a 3 time divorcee knows exactly how to make a relationship work..

If she continues just ask her if she knows so much why did none of her husbands stick around? If she's going to be rude, be rude back frankly she deserves it.

Shit stirrer!

You could take the wind out of her sails next time maybe with something like the following which MIGHT bring her up short...

' I know I shouldn't laugh but you probably heard us through the wall laughing at that last text!! DP wants you to know that he has just googled 'PICTURES OF DIFFERENT VAGINAS' and had a GOOD LOOK so he feels he is safe for the moment. But if we do end up divorcing as he starts RANDOMLY SHAGGING VERY DIFFERENT-LOOKING VAGINAS we could come to you for divorce advice (only joking lol)'

Make her feel foolish.

Wow some folk have a right brass neck! Why would anyone say that to someone they've not long met.

Ignore your neighbour who only moved in three months ago, she knows nothing of your relationship and has been divorced three times, green eyed monster.....much?

Stay away from that toxic bitch. She's up to no good, I can assure you.

Block her number. Ignore her. Don't speak to her more than absolutely necessary. She's a jealous crazy person.

Op I shouldn't laugh but this thread and responses are hilarious. I hope you see the funny side. Avoid this silly tit in future.

I wouldn't respond to her. It will end up in a slanging match she will get off on. Give her a wide berth. Smile and wave, smile and wave. Don't engage.

She is clearly bonkers.

That said, I do find it bizarre that someone could go through life, only having sex with one person. Sex varies greatly with different partners. Having had sex with way more than one man, I know I would have missed out massively if I had been monogamous for life with some of them. Some were seriously shit in bed.

I'd just block her number and have no further contact.

I've been married (and divorced) three times - I'm not a car crash with relationships, just unlucky (three different reasons for divorce!).

But I agree that this woman sounds as though she judges all men and women by her own standards (but don't we all, a little bit?) and is seriously lacking in experience of good people.

Laugh, block and move on.

She's jealous and destructive. Ignore the texts and do not engage with her any further.

Agree with AF. She's suddenly seeing your DH as a challenge...

men need to see different vaginas

And she would know exactly what men need, with her being a woman and know how men Think?

She is definitely seeing your husband in a different light, stay well clear of her. She'll soon be knocking on asking for your DH to help with D.I.Y, moving furniture etc.

I would distance your self

But a thought occurred. Could she have met with him on a date and it's her way of warning you?? Or she has seen him with someone else??

She sounds very bitter and jealous of your long and successful marriage and is trying to shit stir. Advise her to fuck off.