A few years ago after i had my first son I had PND and my relationship with H was rocky. I then found out that I had been messaging and old work mate (female) saying he wished he had never married me etc. Our relationship nearly ended but we worked through it. There have been a couple I other rocky moments (H is crap with money and i suffered from PND after our 2nd child). We are now expecting out 3rd (unplanned) baby and I have suffered from an aweful back injury pretty much leaving me housebound until baby is born and I can have an op to fix it. H has worked really hard running out house, taking care of our dc and still working 48 hours a week. Obviously it's been stressful for all of us and he has mentioned several times he misses sex. Today I borrowed his phone amd he has emails from an adult website "naughty seniors" it's basically an over 30s dating/hook up site. I've always known H likes older women. Hes only dated 2 ppl younger than him (me being 1 of them) all his other relationships were with older women, mostly 5-10 years older than him. He saw id seen and said it's just spam. I Googled the site and its main page is a registration page. I didn't dig much further as I felt a bit ill. Am I jumping to conclusions or is he being a twat again? There were about 5 emails in the last 2 days saying xxx had sent you a message. I didn't look any further back in his emails. I want to beleive it's spam but part of me he doubts.