DH and I have been together for 8 1/2 years and have two boys (5 and 18 months). Last month we sold are tiny house and were hoping to move to something with more space and a garden. When we applied for the mortgage 14K of debt showed up on dh's credit check. He told me that they must be fraud and we spent a very fraught week trying to establish what had happened and contacting the police. During this time I repeatedly said if it is you please tell me but it was always denied. DH then admitted that it was him, he had been taking out loans for the past 2 years to cover family expenses. I feel completely betrayed by him and don't know if we can ever rebuild the trust. We have started going to Relate but I'm not sure I love him anymore or even if I want it to work. It think our relationship hasn't been great for a few years now. Equally the thought of leaving him and the effect on the boys is so scary. Any advice welcome!