Monster mother inlaw and her relatives wedding HELP ASAP!

[MagicalMum2]

I recently had received a wedding invite from my husbands cousin he knows we have been married for 25 years but only addressed the invitation to my husband and didn't even acknowledge me or my children, just simply put 4 reserved seats on it. I know it was done with ill intentions because my mother in law and her relatives have always bullied me and did it to offend me. So my husband politely emailed him to tell him he was offended and his cousin wrote back and insulted my husband and me and my CHILDREN when all we wanted was an apology.Then in the same email my husbands cousin proceeded to UNINVITE all of us from the wedding. How would you feel and react if someone did this to you? Any replies are appreciated.

Meh. You don't need to go and get that nonsense. They've saved you having to bother to decline.

I'd think thank god I didn't have to go!

Ignore the cousin.
Are you sure your MIL's hand is behind this? Is it really such a big deal that your name was left off the invitation as you and your dc were included?

Assuming you only have two children, it sounds lazy rather than malicious (not to say your MIL isn't malicious, just the cousin). If you have more than 2 DC, then it's pretty horrible.

Thank you for your replies i think your right i dodged a bullet there, but I do still feel a bit upset that he had to make it into an argument and make a big deal over it he could have just said sorry and that he didn't do it intentionally. Especially as he insulted my children,we were thinking of emailing him back to tell him that we don't want anything to do with him anymore because he has never respected or accepted me and my husband as a couple. What are your views on emailing him back?

Have someone put a horse's head in his bed. Nothing else will suffice.

Good idea that will teach him

Bloody he'll you sound like hard work. Who writes to say they are offended on receiving an invitation? You want them to beg and entreat you to come?

If you love the happy couple and wish them well and want you share in celebrating their wedding day then it really doesn't matter what they write on the invitations. God knows it's difficult enough to sort out invites.

If you barely know them and they barely know you then do everyone a favour and politely decline without histrionics.

Maintain a dignified silence and cut the (all) fuckers off.

Life is too short for shit.

I wouldn't bother emailing back, they'll always stick to their guns about being in the right whatever you do. You can't argue with stupid

I wouldn't be bothered. You didn't like them and they didn't like you 🤷🏻‍♀️

Dont fuel the drama by carrying on with the emails though. I'd just forget about it and get on with life. I'd leave your DH to deal,with them in future.

Also when he sent my husband the email he put captain before his name and the full name of the company he works for but it's not an established company at all i am not sure what his point was for doing this because he is not even a captain?

Er, maybe you are becoming a little melodramatic?

To be honest, it sounds to me you're as bad as each other.

I have decided to just cut them all off because they are all as shit as each other and we are better off without them.Good riddance I say!

I wouldn't waste one second give a single fuck about those people. Life is too short. Lucky you that you don't have to go to a dumb wedding!

I think you & the captain have had a result.
I'd mark the day by doing something nice with all the money you've saved from attending the wedding

What did they say that insulted your children?

well, your husband was being melodramatic writing emails about how offended he was, which has started this whole drama.

What should have happened - you receive an invite, you decide you want to go or don't want to do, you reply. If the fact that he is being horrible over the addressing of the invite is enough to make you not want to go, fair enough, don't go.

The rest sounds like kids squabbling

I don't know the names of all my cousins spouses, or how many children they have/their children's names. The ones I'm closest to? Yep, I know those names, because we have a relationship. But the ones who I didn't grow up with/there's a large age gap between us/they live in another country... haven't a clue. I was quite bewildered a few months ago when I was informed that my 68 year old cousin has cancer. Turns out that she's actually my mother's cousin, so... my cousin once removed (I think). Perhaps this cousin isn't so closely related to your husband as you've been led to believe, or simply isn't close to him at all.

Although I guess it's a moot point now you've behaved like a petulant toddler. Because that bridge has been well and truly burned... by you/your husband (who I suspect was simply doing as he'd been told to, by you), incidentally, not your MIL.

He could have addressed it as Mr and Mrs xyz and children in the invite.

These are the kind of people you don't need in your life.

How did he insult your children?

There is no way to politely email someone to tell them they've offended you when they've invited you to their wedding

Utterly stupid.

I think a lot of people think it's 'the done thing' to address envelopes only to the main family member. Personally, I think it's rude but can understand the need for shortcuts when it comes to writing wedding invitations.

I think my reaction would depend on the context and how rude they've been (you don't mention what was said about your chn.)

From what you've said, I'm not sure I understand the urgency here. I think I would leave it.