DH and I have been married 15 years, have 3 lovely DC aged 13, 12, and 9. We now sleep in separate rooms since donkeys years, had sex once or twice since DC3 was born, he works more than full time (comes home 9pm), goes cycling for 100 miles at a time at the week ends, was hoping to get a job abroad, is very disappointed it didn't work. He says yes to every opportunity to go abroad for his job, can be away up to 50% of the time. He is grumpy and aggressive if I asked him anything, shouts at the children for a yes or a no, and I have no idea what we have done wrong. He says he is stressed by his job. I think he does not love us anymore and would rather leave but has a sense of duty so stays but hates every minute of it. This is a pretty difficult situation and I am fed up, sad and scared more often than I would care to admit it but could it be worse if we separate? Financially it would be disastrous for both of us for a start. I do have a full time job though but living in London is very expensive. He has been away all week and it was almost a blessing. He is coming back tomorrow and I am dreading it. No idea how to make things better.