Hi, I divorced 9 years ago and met a new man. Our relationship has been full of ups and downs..mostly based on his insecure nature (he doesnt like me going out). He also suffers from ME and is constantly negative and seeking approval. Despite these bad traits, he is reliable. As a single mum, I often lack confidence, and think, who would want my baggage, therefore I stick with this relationship.
However, before Xmas, he was messaging a women, nothing overtly sexual, just flirty texts and kisses. When confronted he claimed it was nothing, despite me reminding him that he would go mad if I did the same.
Then on Xmas day I discovered there were lots of pictures of a young girl he works with stored on his phone. They were from WhatsApp, whilst it might have been innocent, I thought otherwise as there were no photos of anyone else, just this girl (who is 25 years younger!).
Last week, I was in our local town (he thought I was in another city that day) and I bumped into him and this young girl. He claims it is totally innocent, they were buying a gift for a colleague at work. I thought otherwise, they were giggling and laughing and then he looked shocked when he saw me. He later said I wish you would have come over and given me a hug!
I have not talked to him since, he claims I am jealous and over-reacting. Yet, I am starting to think I should leave him, I'm just worried about becoming a lonely old woman.