I've just had an argument with my father and I'm looking for some perspective.
I live 6 hours away from him. A few months ago, I suggested DH, DS and I visit for the Easter weekend. He asked if we could come a few days after Good Friday as his DPs family were visiting until then and they'd need a rest in between (DPs family are lovely but DF and his DP find them hard work). I explained that we couldn't as I've recently started back at work and have no holiday outside my part time hours. Said I'd think about when we could next fit in a long weekend and we left it.
I then found out that DSis visited with her DP and DS. They were there for 2 days and helped with the post-DPs family visit clean up.
On Monday Father wished me happy Easter by email (we don't phone much) and said maybe next time we'd arrange our Easter visit earlier. So I asked him why DSis got to visit when we had respected his wishes for a rest.
Father has kicked off. Calling me childish and horrid, wondering what has got into me and accusing me stropping, using the cliched 'after all I've done for you', saying it was me who refused to visit.
I replied stating the facts as I see them and that I was hurt. Also expressed my surprise at his response.
He has yet to reply but I don't know where to go from here. We generally have a good relationship, though not one to talk about feelings. I've always been respectful and I don't really tease or question him.