An unwritten rule of our sex life is that every time, we must both orgasm and every time we both give oral and have piv sex. I simply tried to give him oral sex and it didn't go down well. I did it v happily. I said worry about me later when he openly questioned it but he still couldn't let it go. Sometimes forced pleasure no longer becomes pleasurable. Anyway we gave up and now he's in a mood but I know 100% if I had followed the unwritten rules of our sex life ( his rules) then it would be fine.