being walked out on

[tich31]

Hi,

How do you get over and move on from someone just walking out? No end of relationship conversations, no real arguments or heated discussion. All I've had is a text saying its not me but him and that everything has just got to him.

And then silence.....I have so much I want to say though!

I guess I feel bewildered.....things maybe had drifted but wasn't expecting this.

Is it worth having relationships and trusting people these days?

This is going to sound like a massive cliche but, time.
Time is really all that helps. He could explain and explain and give you any excuse under the sun but it will never satisfy because the end result will always be the same.

Knowing why he left won't make him change his mind.

You need to stop torturing yourself about the why's, let yourself grieve and wallow for a bit then kick yourself up the bum and carry on having a fabulous life without people that don't know your worth.

My Xh did that. It did take time, lots of time. Then one day I realised he had done me a massive favour. The bastard doesn't even bother with his Dc anymore.
You will get through this

I just hate the unknown & feeling used....I guess I trust too much always.

My self esteem has taken a major hit.

I've been thinking about organising a summer holiday abroad for me & my daughter but am doubting myself if its a good idea.....guess will I cope but feel so low.

I think its the not knowing what the other person is/was really thinking.

And how do I tell people??
I just feel so foolish.

Book the holiday. You don't need to tell anyone anything just yet. For now just concentrate on you and your dd

You'll have to just take this on the chin. He'll have his reasons.
You just need to seize the moment & see this as the start of the rest of your life

How horrible, what a shock that must have been

Nobody will think you're foolish, honestly. Youve not done anything foolish. He's the one that's left with no explanation - if they're going to think anyone is foolish it will be him. And telling people means you will have support, people to lean on, sound off on..

And yes book the holiday, give yourselves somethings good to look forward to. It's going to take time to come to terms with it and get over it, so be nice to yourself.

In a text it seems he's really given that I've been useful... he has said that when he doesn't have kids he uses no facilities....he never did use his cos he was here! Sad that I don't know how long that has gone on for but as I know many you will say....it doesn't matter anyway.
It is a new chapter....another one.
I'm just doubting holiday as I'm doubting my judgment & my self esteem has gone.

I'm about a month into a break up. Things were going along great and in the space of a week it all came crashing down and I'm still not sure why! Your update tonight.... he found you useful? Facilities? I don't understand what that means at all