Fiance missing in action

[7feathers]

Hey all. New profile but old member.

Just need a virtual handhold. Just about had it.

US fiance looks like he has been detained by Irish immigration at Dublin airport. Landed just before 8 - Google tells me - but have had no news so far. His on going flight is at 1pm. Gate will shut in a few minutes I guess.

Fuck it. Horrible horrible year. LTR's are awful. I'm a single mum, two kids. Massive issues with career - parents stalking me. Working so hard to get him over permanently, really need him. Have stress and anxiety and an OH report has said that I am likely mentally disabled through works treatment of me.

And to put the tin lid on it DS1 (8) started vomiting last night and hasn't stopped. He's sleeping now though.

Just. Had. Enough.

Sorry for the pity party. Everything that can go wrong is going wrong.

I'm sorry, that sounds really stressful. Do you know of any reason he might have been detained? Visa problems?

Is he flying into or out of us? Hope you've already heard from him now

Thanks pocket

He's just turned up online. No idea what took him so long to get back to me. He wasn't detained but his onward flight here has due to the wind.

He was detained though last year at immigration Heathrow. I'm keeping my fingers crossed.

And thanks sleeping.

Yes - JFK

Everything is up the spout in Dublin because of the weather, OP. Hopefully he's on his way soon.

Thanks Pat - two hour delay ATM

So was he actually detained or not?

No, sailed through apparently. Just Heathrow now...[wibble]

I'm glad you've located him now but why did you think he might have been detained and why was he detained last time?

Is he not travelling with the correct visas?

unfortunateevents He was stopped for hours in August last year at Heathrow. They seemed to think he would marry me and stay over here permanently, without the correct visa. I did point out I was already married but then they just asserted we would find a 'bent' register. It was all very odd. But very nice to be accused of an illegal act before it took place. Or was even thought of come to that.

So, once that happens, people tend to get their passports flagged.

You don't need a visa from the states if it just a holiday. He will only be here for two weeks.

Actually, just thinking about August makes me livid. They accused me of potentially wanting to commit bigamy. FFS.

I spent 30 mins on the phone being 'interviewed' by border control.

Why would you assume he had been detained?
Surely you have heard about the weather warnings?

Littleballerina I have just answered the detained question.

Poor weather would not stop him contacting me. His US flight landed on time.

That's a very dramatic thread title to describe a man whose flight was late due to bad weather.

Ok so he is no way MIA. His flight was delayed. He isn't missing. Call off the search.
You need help for your mesntsl state please go to your go.

You need help for your mesntsl state please go to your go

There is no need to be so rude!!

It's not rude to suggest that the op needs medical help she sounds on the verge of a total breakdown.

mouldycheesefan

I'd actually really like to have one! But as it is not forthcoming, I will just soldier on.

Actually, and I am beginning to get a bit . I have repeatedly explained my reasoning. His flight inbound was NOT delayed through bad weather.

My reasoning is perfectly sound considering he was detained at Heathrow last year. That was incredibly stressful. And he still might be yet.

And yes mouldycheesefan. Your comment was incredibly rude.

Ellarose85 Thanks :-)

I have been on and off the relationships board since about 2007. Been away a few years. This was always a supportive place away form the main boards. Many on here have helped with various issues over that time. Always been grateful for that support.

Very suprised by change in tone.

Sounds like a perfect storm of stress and thwarted travel plans. Not surprised you panicked!

Foldedtshirt

Thank you. Keeping fingers crossed. He's about to board the Heathrow flight. It's a 'mob' apparently.

I think some people are replying without seeing your answers so it's just a bit of a misunderstanding.

Really sorry things are so tough at the moment feathers, hope your little boy is feeling better when he wakes up.
Keep soldiering on, being proactive and trying to think as positively as possible.

Well, it left 10 mins ago. Arrival time is showing as 17:42

I hope you're together now.