I have been with DP for about a year. We don't live together.
We have been involved in the swingers scene (please don't judge) and have a 'couples' profile on a site. We only ever go to events/meets together & this is our no 1 criteria although in the year we have been together we have only meet 2 couples for drinks and nothing else.
A few weeks ago we had a huge argument which resulted in me leaving DPs house. I sure neither of us knew at that point (middle of the night)where our relationship was going, however, after lots of tears from both of us & long phone calls we had reconciled by the afternoon, agreed we were both being over emotional, loved each other & very much wanted to be with each other.
Last week DP asked me to look for something on his bank statement & I immediately saw a payment to this site. I have always made the payments from my account. He said ' oh your payment didn't go through so I had to make one, blah, blah "
Later that night I of course checked & he never made a payment to our profile. I said he needs to ring for a refund as we have been charged twice (knowing full well we hadn't). 'Yeah, yeah leave it to me I'll sort it"
Then the confessional text " When you left I was in such a dark place, I signed into the site & re-activated an old single profile"
So whilst he was pouring his heart out to me on the phone, in a 'dark' place, he was of sound mind to take out his debit card, enter all the details & go looking for chats all within 5 hours of me leaving ?
Not really sure what I'm looking for but just feel completely and utterly betrayed & feel he is using the 'dark' place as a complete excuse for his shitty behaviour.