I've changed my usual name for this.
I have started work a few months ago and met some really nice people in my office. There is a guy who I wouldn't have given a second glance but we've become quite good friends over the time that I've been here and often insult and banter with each other.
About 2 months ago he confessed that he really liked me. I was flattered but made it clear that he ought to get over me at the time.
After Christmas he suggested getting to know each other a bit better to which I agreed. It's been hot and cold a lot of the time as I get uncomfortable the closer we get. Everytime this happens, I suggest that we just stay friends and he becomes indifferent.
I really do feel that it is all my fault as I do feel strongly about him but am unable to bring myself to carry on with what we had was an "emotional affair" as opposed to a platonic friendship. Now he won't even look at me in the eye whenever I pass him.
dh knows about this as I often spoke about him at the end of the day and he had an inkling that he fancied me back then. It upsets him for me to talk about it obviously, he trusts me and I love him dearly and don't want to do anything to hurt him.
Is it all or nothing with men who find you attractive? I've never been in this situation before where I've been propositioned whilst married.
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