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user1487012581 · 15/02/2017 22:29

Hi mumsnetters,
I'm a stay at home dad. We have a two year old daughter and my wife works full time.

I have posted on here before and have realised that unfortunately my relationship is a lot worse than I thought but I really want to save it and I don't want to leave. Part of the problem is that I've become quite isolated as we recently moved with only a 2 year old for company whereas my wife goes out quite a bit. With work and friends.

I just wanted to know women's opinions on what you would think if I turned up to toddler groups as a Man. i find it quite hard to become involved with a group when it's all women and just wondered if anyone had any tips?

As there aren't that many stay at home dads I thought it would be nice if i could get to know some mums so we could maybe go for coffee occasionally and so I can get out of the house and also so dd could make some fiends or have a play mate.
Thank you.

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user1487012581 · 16/02/2017 17:32

Thank you everyone for your posts. I really appreciate it. I think yeah the main problem is I don't get out out the house. I'm going to try going to a toddler group just to socialise for a bit and also find a night class or something in the evening. I don't really know how it's got so bad with dw. I think it's just gradually happened. I've discussed sharing the chores a bit before in the evening and weekends but she doesn't agree and has reasons why which then makes me doubt myself. Maybe I am just being silly and should be doing them all as some people say. She says she has to go out after work in the week because it's part of the job and she would miss out on opportunities if she didn't. I'm not sure why our sex life has died off but she normally just says she's too tired. I don't really know how to change it. I haven't really realised that this is quite bad until now and writing it down. But she has in the past used sex as a reward for me doing all the washing and cooking for example and she isn't in the mood if I don't do certain things. I'm not really sure where to go from here. Should i mention everything in one go or work on a bit at a time

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