I have always felt my sister in law expects a lot from my brother but over the years have very much held my tongue. He works hard running his own business, which by its very nature is extremely demanding, and which pays for all household bills including mortgage, nursery fees, utilities, fuel etc. But he is also expected to do about 50 per cent of the childcare. My sister in law works a couple of days a week, as she says she needs to get out of the house. Fair enough (I understand being a stay at home mum isn't for everyone) but all I can see is the knock on pressure it has on my brother, and worse still on my parents who are nearby. He absolutely would not cope without them, but very much assumes they will help him out. S-in-law's wages are spent on her hobbies, and presumably on "extras" for the family. She has just dropped a bombshell which means that, through her own disorganisation, my parents will be picking up the pieces next week yet again. All three of them, my brother, and parents, seem to be eternally treading on eggshells, never saying anything because of sister-in-law's fiery nature. Anyone have a similar set up, and dared to voice concern that this just isn't on?