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Should i meet up with ex?

19 replies

Charliepeace83 · 05/02/2017 20:21

As the title says? Has anyone met up with their ex and it was a positive experience? did you feel it was worthwhile or did you regret it?

I have nothing to say to him. He's treated me pretty badly. Now he's acting all sweetness and light. Could be an ego thing or perhaps he wants to ensure he feels better about dumping me?

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Ilovecaindingle · 05/02/2017 20:22

If he treated you badly he isn't worth another minute of your time -

Nellyphants · 05/02/2017 20:25

Why bother meet him if he didn't treat you well. What have you got to gain by meeting him.

I'd say let him off, block & ignore

Costacoffeeplease · 05/02/2017 20:25

If you have nothing to say to him, then why?

AnyFucker · 05/02/2017 20:26

What for ?

MrsDoylesTeabags · 05/02/2017 20:26

No, just no!!!!

RedDwarf4 · 05/02/2017 20:27

Don't even respond

sofiainwonderland · 05/02/2017 20:27

Hell no. He sure as hell doesn't have anything good to say.

OnionKnight · 05/02/2017 20:30

Nope, don't do it.

Original poster
Charliepeace83 · 05/02/2017 20:30

I suppose i just want to look like i can handle it and be adult about it.
I just don't know whats in it for him.

I suppose i am still upset by the whole thing and hoping he'll apologies or acknowledge what he did. Silly i know!

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bloodyteenagers · 05/02/2017 20:31

What's the reason- meet because need to talk about the children - return possessions- divorce court?
If it's for him to stroke his ego about how you will never find someone better than him. Look at me and my life now... Not a chance.

bloodyteenagers · 05/02/2017 20:32

If he wanted to acknowledge what he did or to apologize he could send you an email

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Charliepeace83 · 05/02/2017 20:35

There is nothing that needs to be discussed. I have written a brief letter which i intended to send to him. With the letter i included expensive jewellery and the engagement ring.
He's not expecting me to be so clear cut. Though he ended it he still wants to be 'Friends' when i said it was over and done he ignored my messages.

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KinkyAfro · 05/02/2017 20:35

He probably wants a shag

AnyFucker · 05/02/2017 20:40

Two words is all that is required here

Fuck

and

Off

ImperialBlether · 05/02/2017 20:42

He's had his chance. He blew it. Don't go near him.

Original poster
Charliepeace83 · 05/02/2017 20:43

Hahaha! i think i've got my resounding answer.

just don't know how to say 'no' or 'get lost' :( i hate seeming petty.

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Costacoffeeplease · 05/02/2017 20:47

Block and ignore?

MrDacresEUSubsidy · 05/02/2017 21:07

Just don't respond. Ghost him.

The silence will drive him crackers and you get to finish things without sounding 'petty', because you won't be saying anything at all.

I flogged my old engagement ring. It was given to me as a gift - it wasn't his dead great-granny's - so I had no reservations at all about selling it.

ImperialBlether · 05/02/2017 21:12

He treated you badly. You don't owe him anything, let alone a response.

Besides which, he'll have more respect for you if you ignore him.

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