DH is mostly great but when he's not he's really not - grumpy, and has two sexual moods which are off or on (when off even if I initiate he'll ignore, when on it's all the time and annoying and inappropriate), and a few other niggles. I know he's trying, but I'm starting to get this sinking feeling that I won't be with him forever unless certain things change completely, which I don't think they will. When we got together certain things didn't bother me as much, or I thought could improve over time, but now I'm older, wiser and just have less patience for it.
I want to be happy, I want our nice life, but I just don't feel fulfilled and happy. It's breaking my heart but I can't lead him by the hand and strong arm him into being what I perceive as a better man and husband. Without going into detail about the issues, has anyone felt like this and things HAVE improved, and you're happier now in the marriage? I feel like such a failure and we're working really hard at things but I think now that I was too young to see this when we got together (23 to his 27) and was blinded by love, but actually in real adult life maybe we're just not compatible  we've had separate counselling over the past few years but not together.
I've been feeling a lot happier recently and thought we were on the right track but something happened today that's making me question things all over again.
Feeling very sad and mixed up today... any advice would be welcome.