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I requested my previous thread deleted, heading over to OTBT

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ohshitwhathaveidonetoday · 01/02/2017 09:47

I had a thread deleted yesterday as I posted far too much personal information and I was worried it was outing. I could really do with some hand holding so will try another thread on off the beaten track. I don't want to discuss any details of my behaviour from the other thread on there please but could do with some advice. Flowers

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xStefx · 01/02/2017 09:50

Ok, fire away hun. We are all still here for you xx

SandyY2K · 01/02/2017 10:03

Ask away.

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ohshitwhathaveidonetoday · 01/02/2017 10:08

new thread is on off the beaten track if you would like to join me there Brew

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Mumof3dogs · 01/02/2017 10:10

How's it going today ?Saw your thread the other day and really felt for you .
Hope you have been able to get your plans in place and work out where you are going to from here .

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ohshitwhathaveidonetoday · 01/02/2017 20:00

I am feeling totally shellshocked, like I'm living in a parallel universe. This is my Husband, my best mate and my hero. Everyone believes he worships me. He is unbelievably supportive and loving in every way..... until this .

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Frazzeledandfuckedoff · 01/02/2017 20:03

What's happened since you last posted?
Did he go to work -- have you talked?

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ohshitwhathaveidonetoday · 01/02/2017 20:08

He didn't go to work yesterday but has gone today. We have talked but I'm not sure how much of the truth he is telling. He is desperate apparently to make things work with me and is snivelling for forgiveness. I have put more details on the other thread in off the beaten track

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ballsdeep · 01/02/2017 21:00

I don't think you can move forward until he completely comes clean and he's not doing this. He is already breaking your fragile trust. How do you know he's not gone back to her when he's in work?

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ohshitwhathaveidonetoday · 01/02/2017 21:09

Well apparently yesterday he asked her to leave. His office is a couple of hours away but I think I may head over there tomorrow and check up.

The trouble is how can you force someone to tell you the truth? I have hacked his whatsapp account and tonight whilst he is asleep I am going to try and reinstall his deleted messages. From what I can see though when i click on her contact it says it was last seen yesterday at 15.04 so I guess they made contact then. I am so behind in technology and have been such a trusting idiot that this is all a baptism of fire for me. I have spent the day on the web learning all sorts of ways to spy on people.
Its so sad, this man was my best friend, my everything, who would and did do whatever I asked of him. I cannot believe he has done this.

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EggnogChai · 01/02/2017 21:12

Last seen on WhatsApp means that's the last time she was online - not necessarily that they spoke to each other

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ohshitwhathaveidonetoday · 01/02/2017 21:14

Ah ok! I just hope I can find something tonight when I try and reinstall his messages.

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patrickmore79 · 18/02/2017 01:06

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