In September I split with my X of 8 years. We have 2 DC's (4 & 1). Anyway in November me and my sister went on a night out and I met this really nice guy (or so i thought). We was drunk, kissed and swapped numbers. Fine. We text all that week and he asked to see me again. I said he could come over to my house one night when dc's were in bed. He did, he arrived with chocolates and flowers. Alarm bells did ring slightly as I tthought it was a bit OTT for a first meeting. Anyway all went well, he went home and he wanted to see me again. He worked nights someweekends for a railway company so they paid for a hotel for him on Sat and Sun night. I met him on the Monday day while my DC's were at school before he had to check out and we went spa together, then I ended up sleeping with him. Anyway he then wanted to meet again. About a week later he came over to mine and we slept together again, I asked him to stop over but he said he couldnt as his mom would wonder where he was as he has his graduation in the morning. Again, alarm bells rang. He was 22, yet still had to answer go his mom? (I am 24 with my own home btw). He then said he was going awway to liverpool for the weekend with his mates. He didnt speak to me that weekend. He then spoke afterwards and asked if I would like to go out.. So we went out tgether for a meal and to the casino the following weekend - I then seen what appeared to be a love bite on his neck - I asked him and he said he got in a fight on his night out in Liverpool and it was a bruise LOL. At this point I knew it was bullshit, pretended I was ok and just got dropped home. We tthen spoke a little over text but I told him I wasnt ready to see him again for a while as I wasnt over my X. He was ok about it and would randomly text me, and I hardly ever replied as I sensed there was something odd about him. I then got a text from him after xmas saying "hey ive been thinking and I know youre going through a rough time but I would really like to keep seeing you and see where this goes". I then replied ok how was xmas etcetc then I never bothered replying again.
So i started my new job this week, by pure coinsidence he used to work there. I asked my manager if he knew this guy and he said yes he remembers him. So I text him like "Hey, i started my new job and my manager said he remembers u". At this point I had not replied to him for 10 days. I then got a response gong "ahh cool. I dnt no how to say this but I cant see us going anywhere, sorry". Alarm bells then started to ring, I said we wasnt going anywhere anyway was we? I havent seen you for 4 weeks, why are u randomly saying this? I then went to search for his FB page (we wasnt friends on fb) and he had blocked me. I then KNEW something was wrong so i text him saying "why have you blocked me when I hardly know u, have I upset u or do u have a girlfriend??". He replied saying I didnt text bk frequent enough and that I wasnt consistent and that im not over my kids dad. I never replied to him.
I then went on my sisters facebook, found him, his facebook was set to private but I could see who had 'liked' his display picture. Surprise, a girl had liked it, so I went on her profile to see lots of pics of them together. So I messaged her asking if that was her BF, she said yes we have been together 2+ years whats he done please tell me. So I told her everything. She goes Liverpool uni and has exams next week and is so devastated however thanks me for telling her the truth. I feel awful as I got cheated on TWICE in my past relationship and know how bad it is (i still cnt get over it).
She said she asked him who I was and he looked scared, said he had a drunken kiss with me and then he ran off to be sick. He then apparently told her everything. Are all men the same??????