Boyfriend won't move in with me

[Jenni2610]

Im 35 and my boyfriend 49 we have a baby girl together. The problem is he lives 200miles away. He has a daughter of 16 who lives with her mother in the same town. I have 3 children who live with me and it's impossible for me to leave them. At the moment he'll see her two days every fortnight. What do I do? I didn't enter this relationship thinking I'd be bringing up our daughter on my own 😪

Do you're asking him to choose your daughter over his first daughter?

Did you ever discuss this before having a child together?

Did you not discuss this before having your DD? I assume 1 of youur 3 is his?

You're being so unfair. Unless you'd agreed before the child was conceived, you're asking him to pick his favourite daughter

Was the baby planned. Wasn't this discussed during/before your pregnancy?

Why would you have to leave your children to move closer to the father of the youngest?

You won't move or leave your children. He won't leave his child.
Stalemate.
You must have known this before you had a child together.

How long have you been together? How old are the dc, could you not each move closer, or you visit the second weekend.

Does he work? If he works, would he be able to get a job closer? As his DD is 16, he'll probably be freer to move in 2 years. But you must have realised all this before you got pregnant?

Is he actually single?

That was my thought Michael. Although I can also understand why now wouldn't seem the right time to move away if elder DD is about to do GCSEs.

Why on earth didn't you discuss this before you had a baby??

I agree, this should have been discussed before you got pregnant. You must have known all this, you can't really ask him to choose

Can't you move, taking your children with you? Then your daughter can have a relationship with her older sister too xxx

PBP is very busy tonight me thinks.

@ Cafe

Oh ffs is it a pbp

Oh, what've I missed this time? What's a pbp?

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cafe

Move up there.

Just because I'm being nosey (this doesn't relate to what OPbhas said) how come you can tell it is a previously banned poster? And what do they get banned for? (As I said, am just bored and being nosey!)

How can you be tell that it's a pbp