Loss of sex drive

[Gem90]

I have been on 60mg fluoxetine(Prozac) for almost a year now.
I have noticed a masssive dip in my sex drive. I used to want sex every day but since having our 21 month old ds I feel fat and frumpy and hardly ever feel like sex.
My partner says I have been neglecting him and this makes me feel worse. Has anyone else felt like this and what did you do to make
Things better

How's you're mood OP? If you're still depressed that in itself will effect your sex drive- so difficult to tell if it's the fluoxetine or your low mood.
From your comments re feeling 'fat and frumpy' I assume you still have low mood - have you found the fluoxetine helpful at all ie are you better when you were before?

^either way I think a trip to the GP may be in order ' to discuss how well (or badly) the fluoxetine is working (there are alternatives - citalopram for example), and to discuss your low libido. GP may be able to help you understand what's causing this (depression or medication, or a combination)

Also (sorry for triple post!) do you still feel the same about your DP as you did before the birth of your child?
It doesn't sound like he is being terribly supported based on the snippet above (accusing you of neglecting him etc) x

Thanks for he replies. I still love him loads and find him very attractive, but sometimes I feel like he goes out to work at 8,home usually by 4 and then that's his working day over.whereras I am still doing dishes, getting ds ready for bed, general tidying up between 7-10. Last night I made dinner, tidied up and put ds to bed (like most parents, I'm not looking for a medal)but dp was sleeping on the couch. Then when he woke and wanted sex I felt like he had had his chill time and now I just wanted to sit down and relax aswell!

Getting things in balance again after giving birth is often not plain sailing and it needs time. It is, though, a pity that your OH is thinking of his own needs rather seeing the whole picture.

My DS is 5 months old and I started sertraline for PND about 2 months ago. You sound just like how I felt before antidepressants - feeling fat and frumpy, my libido was pretty much zilch. Partly because I was so embarrassed by my massive weight gain from pregnancy (gained over 3 stone), feeling less fit and exhaustion. My libido isnt completely back to normal yet but it's so much better, so I think for me it was mainly the depression. I would go to the GP and ask to try a different AD.

Your DH sounds very unsupportive. Your body has been through the mill having a baby and he should be supporting and reassuring you. Ironically, he's probably making your libido worse by contributing to you feeling guilty and depressed. Is he always like this?

Definitely think a trip to the GP is in order and perhaps asking you DP for more support. If you're doing housework / putting DC to bed etc. nonestop for 3 hours he is BVU to just lie on the couch (especially when he's apparently accusing you of 'neglecting' him! Obviously he's been working all day but so have you - houses and 21 month olds don't look after themselves!!

*nonstop
...also a close bracket. Damn phone!