Just thought I'd share, I just got this book "when your lover is a liar" by Susan Forward.
I wish I'd read this book a long time ago. I've not even finished it yet, and lots of things resonating - how to spot a liar, what types of lies, how they turn it back on you, and so far most especially the part about once you've caught the lie out, what to do for yourself and strategies to cope initially, etc.