It is very unerotic, feeling 'hassled' for sex. But of course it's hard for one's DP/DH to indicate an interest in sex, when you're off the whole thing, without either seeming to steamroll you, or seeming pathetic and whingy.
I do think that generally feeling attractive, in general, helps. I'm not sure lingerie and a Brazilian is how I would achieve that, but whatever works for you, tbh.