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Jobless STBXH has a new job but hasn't told me, what do I do?

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OhBlissOhJoy · 02/11/2016 23:34

He lost his job a couple of weeks ago. Has said he can't afford to pay the mortgage and bills even though he is living in the house and I have had to move out into a house share because I don't want to be under the same roof as him. He's trawling through our joint account trying to find money he feels he is owed as he is skint.
I've been chatting tonight with a mutual friend who wasn't aware of the situation and he's told me that he's posted about a new job on FB. I don't know if it's true, he's posted things before because he knows I have "spies" telling me what he is up to (I haven't asked but a few people have told me anyway) and I don't know what to do now. He knows I will pay the mortgage if he doesn't as I need to keep my credit history good so I can get a new mortgage but if he has a new job - why should I?! How do I find out if it's true or not?

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HeddaGarbled · 02/11/2016 23:44

Don't worry about that right now. Even if he does have a job, you can't make him pay anything if he refuses. Just keep going with the divorce and sale of the house and division of equity and it will all be sorted in the end.

OhBlissOhJoy · 02/11/2016 23:52

It's so frustrating Hedda, I've bailed him out to the tune of thousands while we were together (which he is refusing to pay back as his solicitor has told him it was joint funds) and am continuing to have to bail him out while we have split!

It's so unfair!!!

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HeddaGarbled · 03/11/2016 00:02

I know, sweetheart. Get that house sold and the financial settlement done and dusted then the freeloading fucker will be out of your hair forever Grin

OhBlissOhJoy · 03/11/2016 00:06

I want your attitude!!! Can you be me for the next few months Flowers

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