Living arrangements...

[Mum4Fergus]

I appreciate this is more a legal question but find there is always more experience/traffic through here

With DP 2yrs and currently discussing living together. I have DS6 who lives with me, he has DS18 who lives with him (though headed off to college), DS10 and DD14 who live with their Mum (not local to us). Having looked at all options it's likely that my current home is probable long term option for us.

As things stand just now everything I have would go to DS when I pop off. And while I want this to remain sane currently I think that longer term I will want to make provision for DP to ensure that he isn't made homeless...

Any thoughts, ideas on best approach?!

2 years seems a short time to be considering writing him into your will making provisions for him should anything happen to you. Would it perhaps be best to wait until you have lived together for a couple of years first? I know couples who have moved in together, and it has lasted less than a year because it just hasn't worked out. And won't your DP have money from the sale of his house anyway, to put down as a deposit on another house, should the move to live with you breakdown? Or he could even just rent out his home, for a year or two at least, so that he has a home to return to if needed. Initially I would just make sure you make a will to state your home etc goes to your DS and his guardian (whoever you nominate - grandmother/sibling to hold in trust til your DS is of age), and once you have been together a couple of years and are fully committed to each other, then start thinking about how to split your assets etc.

I think you'd be crazy to even consider sonething like that after such a short length of time.

Move in together but protect your assets and don't change your will for now!

I wouldn't ever do it tbh.
My DC would always come first and foremost.
Also it is very early days for you to even be considering it.
Genuinely no offence or disrespect but in my opinion you are being very naively trusting.

For clarity, our relationship is not in question. I'm looking to investigate the legal process under which I can ensure DP is not forcibly removed from what will be our home on my demise...I recall something around 'right to reside' but cant find the criteria of it...

I've been PMd the info I need, thanks!