namechanged for obvious reasons. I will try to keep this brief.
Married 15 years with 3 primary aged children.
I was made redundant earlier this year. Claimed 6 months JSA but not allowed to claim anymore due to his earnings.
Relationship is awful. If I speak to him he will flat out ignore me. He won't do anything around the house - he would step over one of the kids toys rather than pick it up. He sits in another room.
He has always been rubbish managing money. He asked me to get lots of things on credit over the years - he said my credit was better than his so I went along with it.
He gives me money each week from nothing to £100 depending on how much he wants to give me or how much he has left over spending on whatever he wants.
I have no say in how much he gives me and if we need anything I can't afford I have to ask him for it.
I have called Relate who advised of the cost involved. I couldn't make an appointment without checking with him to see if he would pay. He said it wasn't worth it. I can't afford to pay. The lady at relate said this was financial abuse/domestic violence.
I feel my hands are tied I can't afford to leave. I can't afford to do anything. I have spent the morning crying because I feel trapped.