How did you know

[user1471462290]

How did you know that your marriage was over?

I do love my husband but I'm just not happy & I don't know what to do

When he went away for a few days and - even though I suspected he was going off to bang someone else - it was the happiest, less stressful days I could remember in years.

I wasn't married, but (similar to pp) I knew my ten yr relarionship was over when I avoided spending time with him & really enjoyed it when he went away.

On Saturday. He very casually called me a cunt during a conversation about housework vs DIY that needed to be done this weekend. I finally realised/ accepted after 8 years that I don't want to be married to someone who is happy to call me that or a bitch or crazy or stupid over having a proper conversation. He won't go to counselling/relate as he's certain that will make him at fault and he thinks that means I'll get a better deal than I should.

When my parents asked why (they do know about issues but love both of us very much) I summed it up as, 'he is a lovely man who has done some very generous things BUT he is not nice to me.'