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Happiness after Heartbreak

3 replies

TheTapir · 30/09/2016 10:34

My husband has left me after 20 years and I am totally devastated. I never thought it was possible to feel this much pain and sorrow. I honestly thought we were happy together.

My friends are telling me that I will be ok and feel better in time but I am struggling to believe them. I can't imagine that I will ever feel better.

Can anyone tell me their stories of finding happiness, either alone or with a new partner, after being totally broken hearted?

How long did it take for you to feel "normal" again?

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BillericayDuckie · 30/09/2016 11:12

I don't have any answers OP, but I am in a similar situation to you and didn't want to read and run.

People have said the same to me, but it is hard to see a way forward from here.

Sending you a big hug because I know how you are feeling.

Lostsoul62 · 30/09/2016 22:33

I am 9 months in from feeling broken hearted and can honestly say I am proud of myself and happy just being by myself. I like my own company now. However I was in an abusive marriage. But there is hope and I am happy with that.
I am.Sorry for how your feeling. It's so very hard at the start. Be kind to yourself

HappyJanuary · 30/09/2016 22:36

Another one experiencing similar. I am eighteen months on and still feel devastated and traumatised. People say it takes a month for every year of the relationship, so I am hopeful. Lots of people on here that are further on than us and swear it gets better, so I'm choosing to believe them.

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