Feel like dh can never say sorry

[Waitingforsleep]

Dh is not a bad person especially from some of the stuff I read on here
However I feel he can't seem to say sorry or see how things can be from my point of view
It's really affecting our relationship and I don't know what to do
Sometimes makes me feel I'm being unreasonable but although maybe at times I may be I generally think I'm not.
I feel he often answers something I have said by turning it around on me or giving an excuse as to his behaviour and I don't get it, he can't seem to see things and then say sorry.
not sure what am asking on this but feel like I'm being out of order

Sounds like he's not very emotionally intelligent or good at communicating/being in a relationship.

Saying sorry (and meaning it) is vital in a relationship unless you genuinely are perfect. Saying sorry heps the other person forgive you and the relationship move on.

So your dh isn't v good at relationships, can you accept that? (Don't think you can change him!)

I've known DH for 33 years. I've never heard him apologise for anything, in words. I can tell from how he behaves whether he's sorry. I quite admire his intransigence. It doesn't bother me that he doesn't say sorry. Actions speak louder than words.

Your relationship bar is set at not as bad as "some of the stuff I read on here"? That's how low you have to stoop to make him seem OK?

He might never feel that he is wrong. Ever. No matter what.

Have a read of the abuser profiles and see if any ring true.

Mine is the same. It drives me mad. He can't admit he's wrong and will always turn it around on me.

It's usually the same pattern: he says something negative/offensive, I get annoyed, he tells me I picked it up wrong, and in the end it looks like I'm being precious/overreacting over nothing

I KNOW I'm right though, but he'll continue until I drop it