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She's welcome to him - a support thread for us left behind for the OW

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GinBunny · 23/09/2016 22:25

I posted on here less than 4 weeks ago when I found out my H had cheated on me. Since then there seems to be a new thread every day from someone in the same boat. Today, I feel stronger. So, anyone fancy a Friday night "she's welcome to him" thread?
For me, she is welcome to him because:
His snoring has meant I haven't had a decent nights sleep for around 10 years.
He sweats. Constantly. Even when it's not hot.

His bloody ego. Jesus. He thinks he's a bit shot. He's not.

She thinks he has money. Does she not think that he's staying with her and her parents because he can't afford to rent somewhere and not because he can't bear to be away from her Hmm
He's full of talk about all these plans but never actually does a bloody thing about any of them other than talk.
He has bad breath.

Am wondering why I wasted 13 years on such a loser actually Grin
Anyone want to add to the list?

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Molly333 · 23/09/2016 22:49

She's welcome to him, as she now knows ( it's all just come out) that he's in massive debt on credit cards and yes he did steal all the money from his children's accounts . And yes as she now knows he's lies and lies but she said she would never believe me . As they say lies come out in the end and they hv , your welcome love 😃

housewifedesperate · 24/09/2016 00:06

She's welcome to him as she can be controlled instead of me and my children.
She's welcome to him as I don't have to wake up to an ugly (think uglier than gollum) narcissistic sociopath.
She's welcome to him as we're free to enjoy life again. Just really wish he would totally fuck off back to the rock he crawled out from (and take his bit with him).
She's welcome to him as I get to build my self esteem back up while hers will be slowly eroded through his actions and words.
She's welcome to him as they're both dicks and suit eachother and while they're together, no-one else is subjected to them (until one of them strays of course)
I could go on but I think that will do for now.

jeaux90 · 24/09/2016 00:10

Love this :) I am a single parent and my ex is long behind me....just wanted to say I love the positive negatives :). The one about not sleeping for ten years because of the snoring ....oh I hear you sister. Big hugs xxx

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GinBunny · 24/09/2016 00:13

She's welcome to him as I get to build my self esteem back up while hers will be slowly eroded through his actions and words. This in spades Housewife, she thinks she's won the prize but really my freedom from him is the real prize. Hope you are both doing ok Flowers

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AlienTaxFiend · 24/09/2016 00:15

Extremely loud farts in bed (loud enough to wake me up). Hope she's enjoying those beauties Wink

housewifedesperate · 24/09/2016 00:21

Yeah, we're all getting there ginbunny thanks.
I realised my post was a bit serious but I'm loving the positive negatives too!

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GinBunny · 24/09/2016 00:22

Ugh, mine didn't fart he just shits for Britain. Am sure her parents really appreciate the extra drain on their loo roll and sincerely hope they have a second loo Grin.
And a 45 year old man that moves in with a 25 year old and HER PARENTS. You're welcome love.

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GinBunny · 24/09/2016 00:26

Be serious Housewife. It's a shitty time and was not meant to be a lighthearted thread, just an honest one.

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housewifedesperate · 24/09/2016 00:27

Ha, the shits! When my ex h moved out, he moved in temporarily with a friend who told me he used to stink the bathroom out and leave floaters in the loo. This happened quite frequently as he was an avid juicer (all that fibre!) she's definitely welcome to his bowel

elephantoverthehill · 24/09/2016 00:37

Well at least I can fart when I want Grin

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GinBunny · 24/09/2016 00:38

I don't remember love my bowels being in our marriage vows Confused

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aLeopardanditsSpots · 24/09/2016 12:36

She's welcome to a man she knows to be a cheat and a liar.
She's also a cheat so like someone else said while they are together their low morals can't hurt any body else.
She won a lying cheating thieving piece of shit, I suppose she thinks she saved him from his miserable existence with such a horrible person as me.
Funny that he asked me to marry him only a month before the affair started oh what an awful bitch I must be. Really it just testifies to the fact that he is a fake emotionally stunted weak fickle loser with the attention span of a cockerspaniel in heat.
She's welcome to live in his fantasy world where 90% of everything he says is a lie.
Welcome to put up with his kid what's only 12 years younger than her who not surprisingly with a dick for a father has emotional and behavioural problems. Fun.

ilivehappilyeverafter · 24/09/2016 17:47

Like the post above, she's welcome to him and hope it clicks pretty soon that it's him that has all the issues. You know how all the memes are going round about karma and Jennifer Aniston just now? That's going to be me when it hits Grin

ElectricMelon · 24/09/2016 18:04

She's welcome to him because he's a self centered manipulative twunt who wants a replacement mummy to wipe his arse and think the sun shines out of it.

She's welcome to his shit stained undies, to him leaving a trail of mess wherever he goes in the house, his boring obsession with football and his porn addiction.

She's welcome to his lies and constant put downs.

He's cheated on her now and she was apparently heartbroken (hopefully still is) and was crying herself to sleep. Shame Grin

Shayelle · 24/09/2016 20:33

Really glad to hear youre feeling stronger ginbunny. Can't believe its been a month already. You made it lady Smile. Hows the housing situation working out?

Splishing · 24/09/2016 22:47

She's welcome to him because he his a manipulative liar. He has the issues (not me!) and if someone can treat the mother of his precious children the way he has then it shows how much of a shit he is.
She can deal with him being smelly, not tidying up after himself. She can deal with him avoiding difficult things and putting things off for tomorrow.
Most importantly she can deal with his difficult family and all their issues. Realise now that I no longer have to see the members of his family that I put up with becausei was with him and that makes me smile a lot 😊

housewifedesperate · 24/09/2016 23:48

Hi here you splishing. Unfortunately, because we have children together we're going to be joined together forever. Let's hope our influence far out reaches these exes and their family x

housewifedesperate · 24/09/2016 23:52

I'm going to share (because I'm a bit pissed!)

He made me feel inadequate because he said I was a bit loose below. Turns out, he was small and addicted to teen porn which meant he had a death grip which no human vagina would satisfy.
Thankfully I know this nowSmile

Splishing · 24/09/2016 23:56

Absolutely housewife. That's the difficult thing about all this that you can't truly cut all ties because of the children. I really do hope I can be the positive influence on my children. I realise now that a lot of my STBXH issues and faults are due to his very dysfunctional family and wish I had been wise enough many years ago to see that he was going to eventually turn out the same as them. I certainly will be doing everything I can to ensure that history doesn't repeat itself with my children.

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GinBunny · 25/09/2016 00:16

Hey Shayelle, thanks for asking! I am in a much better place mentally - today I went the whole day without crying Grin
I am moving back into the flat with my dog. I'm actually quite looking forward to it, when we lived there before it was his decor and his shit so I am looking forward to turning it into a little girlie haven. The house is nearly market ready, I'm hoping to get it put on the week after next. He has shown what an absolute arse he is this week because now I have stepped up and he is losing control. And I even managed to catch a spider in my new spangly gadget from Amazon so fucking go me Grin

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housewifedesperate · 25/09/2016 00:18

I know. You think because you have a decent family background and are brought up right that this will be ok. My children seem to be old enough to reject his influence and background, still incredibly sad because I thought he could change. Seems u was wrong. so hoping my children will be ok x

housewifedesperate · 25/09/2016 00:19

My grammar is terrible! Apologies for the street talk

housewifedesperate · 25/09/2016 00:20

Bit drunked but enjoying life after dickface x

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GinBunny · 25/09/2016 00:21

Housewife, that is fucking awful, what an appalling human being he is. I hope you are feeling stronger too, and everyone on this thread. A month ago I felt my world had stopped, but you know, it has kept on turning.

All the OWs are welcome to their cheating OHs because what goes around comes around and even if it doesn't, we are all well shot of these dickheads.

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Shayelle · 25/09/2016 07:26

Hi GinBunny, i am so delighted to hear you dont have to rehome your dear dog (who will show you more love and be greater than your ex ever was!!) having a girlie home is fab, ive lived alone 8 years and it is so satisfying having your home EXACTLY how you want it.. Im really happy for you and so glad to hear things are working out Grin x