Hello everyone! I'm a fairly established Mumsnetter, but it's my first time on 'Relationships', and I'd really appreciate your input here.
Backstory is that my 18 year old marriage came to an end 4 years ago. I am 42 and have 3 children. I have been feeling lonely, and decided that it was time to get out there and try to meet someone. So I joined Match.com about a month ago. It's my first experience of a dating site/relationship since my marriage.
I chatted with a guy on there for a couple of weeks; we had some great banter and a good laugh. I really enjoyed it. So when he suggested meeting up, I didn't hesitate, as by then had built up a good rapport with him.
We met and the date was brilliant. We texted lots thereafter, and I was really happy and positive about it. Then a day later his texts took a slightly sleazy turn, which culminated in him sending a photo of myself. I explained to him that this was too much for me too soon, that I had been out of the dating game for 20 years, and I wasn't used to this kind of stuff. He was apologetic and absolutely mortified; he couldn't get over having made an arse of himself, so we didn't see each other again. I was actually rather gutted, but vowed never again to email for weeks on end before meeting, as in hindsight I was way too over invested in the whole thing from the start 
So I got chatting to another guy. He seemed straightforward, normal, decent, bookish, dependable. I didn't feel particularly attracted to him, but he seemed like just what I needed. The kind of guy who would always text when he said he would. We haven't met, but swapped numbers last night, as his membership was due to expire. We exchanged a few texts, and even they started taking a sleazy turn! He started talking about his tastes in women's underwear 
I started messaging another guy today, who seemed very nice. Then he asked if I was curvy all over, or "just in the places that boys like". Heaven help me. He asked me about the free time I have. Apparently I have time to "be a good mum, and a naughty girlfriend". 
Really, is this how it's going to be? I didn't think I was a prude until I joined. I can flirt and have a laugh. And I cannot wait to have sex in due course, as it has been so long! But this, really?? Is it the norm these days for the opposite sexes to chat in this way, so early on? And is there a dating site where I'm likely to meet someone a wee bit more gentlemanly?
Would really like to hear from those of you who have a bit more experience in the ways of internet dating. Are my expectations too high? I just don't know any more. I expected better of a paid site I think.
Thanks 