Highly successful STBX in financial services overpowering me. Please hell

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I was a professional in financial services on a very good salary. I have it up to be a SAHM. No regrets, but over the last 7 years I tangibly feel as though my brain has softened.

We are in the infancy of divorce. I have no idea what to do. I'm seeing a solicitor this week, but I feel that every day that passes my husband is squirrelling things away and sorting himself out.

What do I need to do? I'm sorry, I feel pathetic

Most important thing is getting a solicitor, and you're on that.

Photocopy any documents that you can. If you break into filing cabinets you can't use the evidence, but at least you'll know where to start focusing your attention.

You've been in FS - you know about forensics and audits. You may (if it's big bucks) at some point need a forensic accountant.

In the first instance though - how have you found this solicitor? Make sure you're seeing someone who has experience both with high net worth and with hiding money! That's a tangible step you can take to feel in more control today - checking you're seeing an appropriately experienced solicitor.