I just want to get a few opinions on what you all think and what you would do if you was in this position.
For the past 6 months when I get the phone bill for my H's phone there is always a number that isn't family/friends/work, he normally tells me if he has had to phone work or anything like that but never mentioned this person. I did look through his phone a couple of times (Yes I know I shouldn't but I wanted to know) but all text messages are deleted ( even from me and the DC's ) and all call history, When I asked him how much he uses his phone at work he said he never even turns it on, so asked about the 30 texts to this number and after trying to cover it up for ages he ended up saying they just sent jokes to each other.
There is someone from work that he talks about all the time and they sound really flirty with each other, he can't remember her name although they talk about really personal things. I don't want to sounds like I am a really jealous person, I'm not he always talks about other women and it doesn't bother me.
^ These have happened before a couple of years ago and whenever I spoke to him about the phone calls/texts he would go really moody and stop talking to me for ages.
He never helps out any more won't even make a drink or wash up, thinks it's my job because he works and I stay at home, but even on days of he won't lift a finger to help, we never go out anywhere, he doesn't like it if we need to get shopping just wants to sit and either watch TV or play on the Xbox for the day, he gets the ump over somethings petty, like people on the road ( so nothing any of the family has done ) then won't speak to any of us for weeks on end, if he does he snaps and can be so nasty at times.
He always puts me down for everything I do or questions everything even to the point of why are we watching this or why do we need this ( a pack of tupperware that was 50p! )
I have been so close to leaving twice before, because I know he doesn't love me anymore he just wants someone to cook and clean for him. But because of not having anywhere to go/no job/can't drive/the DC's ( in a really quiet place so hard to get about ) I thought it was best to stay, but the atmosphere around here 90% of the time is horrible but I know if I say anything he just gets the ump and refuses to talk about anything.