there is lots of talk on here about making sure you have a SHL when divorcing someone with NPD - i have read numerous articles saying this too but how do you know if your SHL is actually SHL or just out for the easiest ride for the most money. I am in this situation and feel i am being led a merry dance but from other posters on here this seems normal - i have read that they need to close down the narc at every opportunity - i am telling my sol they need to question something and i am being questioned as to why i am asking - i am at my wits end and feel my solicitor is using my ignorance and emotional state to their advantage