Yes he's still a cunt, should have listened to AF

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Went back to cheating partner (hate that term but after 18 years and two DD thats all I get to call him) absolutely no bones about going back for the kids, they are two years away from leaving home , I will NOT upheave them under no circumstances. BUT I thought twatface might meet me half way after all I had forgiven his blatent cruelty when he told me as I lay in complete shock oh I'm going to a hotel with her, I won't be in contact.
Okay now I have woken up, yes I have frustrated my good friends as well as AF , I know !!!

But the fabulous absolutely. Fucking brilliant news is I no longer care I no longer give a flying fuck if he lives or dies , I'm not sure what has happened to me but I am so glad I don't feel so now I am free xxx

now I am free

And can you say this of your children, living with you and a man you walked out on and still think is a cunt?

Bit confused. You went back to him and he then left you, or you're refusing to cause your children upheaval by leaving (but you left once already? and are planning to stay while he treats you like shit?

Why do you feel so strongly that your DC won't cope with the change? Also, 2 years from leaving? Are you sure? Many young adult DC stay well into their twenties or, at the least, come and go.

They might be much happier to have a happy mum.

Who is AF? Aunt fanny?!

I'd guess it's Any Fucker.

He left you after you went back or he's just carrying on now he knows you're not going anywhere?

Seriously ditch him, your kids will cope better than you think.

I know it's a rant but whut?

why do you even care what AF think| surely you have bigger fish to fry

but LOL at Aunt Fanny

I don't quite understand your post but I guess great news on being free (or feeling free? which isn't quite the same thing).

You may be emotionally free, but not practically. I hate to piss on your chips, but I think you need to reconsider NOT leaving him. What will happen if the DC don't leave home in 2 years? What will happen if he decides that HE wants a divorce and you are forced to separate. If I were you, I'd be taking some control of your situation.

How old is two years away from leaving home? 16? 18?
And you'd let them watch you taking this shit rather than "upset" them by leaving? Sad...

Two years of living with parents who can't stand each other, now there's an atmosphere to look forward to. There's a very good chance that the high your currently experiencing, will be short lived because 'you not giving a shit', could be the catalyst for him being even more of a shit.

MN should sell "AF was right" and "always listen to AF" t shirts

Maybe a bracelet with "WWAFD" (What would Any Fucker Do)

She's a wise wise woman

Yes ,a bracelet with WWAF do, then all the LTB and her blood thirsty followers will feel happy

That makes no sense

I saw a reg plate with LTB on today.... Made me think of mumsnet... totally irrelevant

Gosh,, I so wish I hadn't posted what I was feeling , Mums net is like being back at school the bullying , cliquee mentality, snide comments,gosh so many snide comments thanks all of you who went put if your way to make sure I feel worse.

if moving back in with the tosser isn't going well for you and your RL friends agree with MNetters, why not just LTB?

The DC might well not thank you for staying with a tosser "for their sake".

So you think we are bloodthirsty for telling you to leave him, yet you want to leave him and wish you'd left earlier? Is that correct?

I wish I had mumsnet and AF a few years ago. OP good luck.

I'm sorry but I'm not clear. Did you leave the bastard or are you living with him, but sort of dead inside?

If you don't care then leave, if you did leave then good for you.

Perhaps re read your OP. It doesn't make sense. Have you left him with the kids? Who is at the hotel? You went back to him but you're free?! How old are the kids?