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Will POF respond if I complain about some hassle I'm getting?

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DraenorQueen · 07/07/2016 18:20

Feel a bit weird about this.

I had a message on POF 2 days ago from a guy called, let's say, James. I recognised him as a creep who'd sent me a message on Tinder saying he wanted a woman he could "destroy" so I called him on it (stupidly.)
He replied asking did I not want to be destroyed then, which I obviously ignored. The next day I got a message from "Sam" saying, "James is just such a nice guy isn't he?" and picking up loads of things about my profile in a way that made me uncomfortable.

Today I've had another from "Phil." "Are you still in contact with James? He's a nice guy isn;t he?" Again commenting creepily on stuff in my profile. I do not like this. I feel like I'm the butt of some joke and that "James" a fucking nutcase getting his mates to send me weird messages. Should I email POF? Or just delete my account?

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sooperdooper · 07/07/2016 18:26

POF is full of weirdos, delete your account and try a different old site :)

DraenorQueen · 07/07/2016 18:33

I know you're right, I just hate that I should alter MY behaviour because there are some fucking wankers out there who want to cause upset. I've blocked all three of them but if I get another I'll delete the whole account.

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CitySnicker · 07/07/2016 18:36

Just keep blocking all of them. He will run out of friends soon.

DraenorQueen · 07/07/2016 18:38

I guess. But why DO it? I know there are all kinds of weirdos about but these look like normal professional men!?

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user1467744008 · 07/07/2016 19:12

Reverse search his image, find him on facebook and send screenshots to his work and friends of him abusing women online. Is what I would like to do.

in reality, I'd just keep blocking. If you leave he wins, if you react he wins.

DraenorQueen · 07/07/2016 19:17

Funnily enough that was EXACTLY what I wanted to do! Plaster his stupid face on his local small town buy and sell site with screenshots of his messages and his mates' messages. Bunch of twats. But no. Annoyingly, his profile talks about wanting to meet the right woman to settle with and eventually have a family... Bleurgh. Fuck it, hes called Colin and he's from County Durham!!!!

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FreeFromHarm · 07/07/2016 23:29

I wish I could warn a women about a man off Pof, have his picture, his name and address, he is a menace to single parents, all over sites.... Any suggestions 😏

FreeFromHarm · 07/07/2016 23:31

Other women sorry.

LellyMcKelly · 08/07/2016 05:25

It probably not friends. He probably has multiple accounts. I'd tell POF and let them deal it. He sounds like a creep.

user1467744008 · 08/07/2016 10:44

Annoyingly, his profile talks about wanting to meet the right woman to settle with and eventually have a family

Before or after he destroys her?

DraenorQueen · 11/07/2016 06:43

Thanks again guys. Had another few messages this weekend from idiots all mentioning this guy.... I've deleted my profile as it's not worth the hassle. Ah well

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