Five years ago, my partner proposed to me. I was over the moon as we had had a relationship for 9 years. He was my first love and we rekindled after 25 years apart. I started making wedding plans, nothing OTT, just a quiet register do, a meal and a short break to celebrate.
Then came the bombshell. He asked me to postpone the wedding, as his ex girlfriend would give him a hard time if he married me. Their relationship had ended many years before. The ex still visits his family weekly and still contacts him, playing the damsel in distress. They never married and never had kids.
My problem is, he still wants to marry me and now says that anytime I want to, he will, but I can't let go of what he said about postponing it in the first place. In my eyes, he considered her feelings over mine and this really grates on me, as it has made me feel inferior and worthless.
Do I make a conscious effort to forgive and forget and get hitched, or do I carry on reminding him, that I wasn't his priority when I should have been.