We have been together for 16 years and we have two children age 7 and 5. Life is settled, fairly busy and generally happy. However, since having children my husband has pretty much lost interest in sex. My sex drive isn't great, so it feels like we have both given up. We last did it in February. Every few months (for the last 7 years) I bring it up as an issue, we talk about it, decide we've got to make an effort, try to improve things. It results in us doing it a couple of times and then we go back to the drought! He genuinely doesn't seem bothered or that it's an issue. I know he masterbates and so do I. Is anyone else in a similar situation? I think we'll always be together but to me this doesn't feel right.