How does your OH show affection?

[mylaststraw]

I think he needs a few pointers (mind you, so do I, probably)! Sadly, all I can come up with is the booby-groping hug (which winds me up), and sometimes asking if I want a glass of wine while he's getting his beer. Help!!!

He tells me he loves me, I'm beautiful, funny, that he's lucky to have me etc. He's very tactile and constantly is touching, hugging, kissing me. I feel bad that I'm not very tactile and feel "pawed at" sometimes. He gets every gift on point. Always something thoughtful or something I really want. He does my share of the chores sometimes just to be nice or to ensure a shag ha and when I was pregnant he cared for me like I was made of glass. Also he always wants to do things with me, and when he's apart from me, even just playing golf or watching rugby, he texts to say he's missing me. He's a goodun .

Your issue is a bit more than showing affection.
Who wants affection from someone who doesn't pull their weight?

You need to chat about how you can feel more supported (and him too if it works both ways)

It might mean practical things like helping out with whatever needs to be done when he's at home to something more emotional like hugging and treating each other like you'd treat people you actually like and care about.
That could include small acts like making cups of tea, cooking dinner together, chatting and watching a film together chilling out on the sofa at the end of the day.
Also, go out more. Together as a family, as a couple and both of you on your own too.

Well, my husband is the only guy I've ever been with, he is my first everything.
I only know what he do. Everything I know about men love and marriage is all from him.. So what the heck do I know about effection and what other men do when it come to affection.
But what I know is my husband like to do corny and 'not very normal' things.
Some of the things he do that I think it 'not very normal', like these things below:

---- My husband like to kiss my butt cheek whenever we in bed together. Clothed or not, underwear or short on, he still like to kiss it.
I have the bad habit of sleeping on my stomach. And I lay in bed on my stomach playing on my laptop. Whenever he see me lay on my stomach, he would kiss my butt cheek.. Or simply as when he walk in the bedroom and see me laying flat on my stomach, lol
To me it just sooo awkward! I told him it embarrassing. But he said he have nothing to be embarrassed about that he kiss his wife butt cheek.

He very respectful. He doesn't bite, doesn't slap, doesn't gropes, doesn't spank my butt, not even a light spank.
He just simply put his lips on my butt cheek and kiss it. It not a peck; but it a gentle slow kiss type, he's weird right?
I know this is his way of showing affections. And I do try to adapt to "his" way of affection, I let him do it.. Sometimes I giggles, I giggles and I give him a hug. He was sooo happy that I enjoy it and that I appreciate his kiss.

ugh.. but at our age we not young anymore, I'm 31 and he 30. And he still do what he do.
He still give me the reasoning that he have nothing to be embarrassed about that he kiss his 'wife' butt cheek.. I just dunno how to response back to him when he give a reasoning like that.

..when I get dress, sometimes I look at my butt in the mirror and I keep wondering why he likes to kiss it? Is there something wrong with my butt? lol
I dunno, I think he corny. I mean normal guys don't kiss their wife butt cheek right? okay, a quick peck I understand.. But my husband kiss--it not a peck; but it a gentle slow kiss type. He ridiculously corny.

---- I'm not even pregnant yet and he already kiss my stomach. No, he doesn't kiss it everyday but 2-3 times a week usually on weekend, lol
He said when I'm pregnant, he wants me to let him kiss my stomach EVERYDAY for 9 Months until the baby born.. He so corny right?
When he watching News; sometimes he lays his head on my lap, and he would kiss my chubby stomach.
(I'm 4'11" petite short height curvy body type, and I have a chubby stomach. Dunno why he likes to kiss my stomach when there no baby in there, lol). I giggles and tell him that there no baby in there yet.. But he said he wants to, and likes to kiss my stomach; baby there or not.

I reminded him that I'm very careful with take my BCP, and asked that he knows I'm not pregnant right? And asked why he likes to kiss my tummy when there no baby in there? I asked silly question like that, lol
He thinks I'm silly. He said he knows I'm not pregnant, but he still want to kiss my stomach; baby there or not.
And the way he kiss my tummy, it kindda odd too.. It not the peck type, but the slow kiss type--the he put his lips on your tummy and slow kiss it, lol (he corny).

I dunno, but normal would be like: men wait when their wife pregnant, then men kiss their wife stomach.
But I'm Not pregnant, why my husband wants to kiss my stomach for? I just don't understand it.

-- In the cold winter time; my hands and feet get freezing, like very very cold.. He know this, so he rubs my feet and hands; when we in bedhe always rubs my hands and rubs my feet.
We did tried to turn on heater; but when the heater stays on, after a while I get bleeding nose.. He knows this so he doesn't want to leave the heater on, I guess because he doesn't want to see my nose bleeds. He keeps rubs my hands and rubs my feet to helps keep it stay warm.

I think what he did is not very normal. Because normal would be like: okay, your hands and feet cold, I turn on the heater for you. and that should be all to it.
But why my husband keeps rubs my hands and feet to help keep it stay warm instead? because he knows I get nose bleeds if leave the heater on? I just don't get it.

Those are the few examples that he do. There more things he do that 'not very normal' and corny like that. But I think those examples is enough to get my point across that he do 'not very normal' things, lol