Help - no sex or affection in my marriage - what am I doing wrong?

[nomoreintimacyever]

H and I haven't slept together since February. He is completely disinterested. I really need some affection and physical contact. It's permanently on my mind and the futility of hoping it will get better makes it worse.

What do I do ?

I just don't know how to stop yearning for something which H seems completely uninterested in or how to stop feeling sad about it. It kind of dominates all my thoughts .

Has it been a recent phenomenon or declined gradually over time? The two seem to work in tandem. When I'm not having regular sex, I feel less affectionate & vice versa. It's a tough cycle to break

Like Naze said, has it been a gradual decline to zero or a sudden halt. Has anything happened in his life recently? How is his mood generally etc....