Broken Promises

[hurtagain]

I'm fed up of being let down by people. I'm done smiling and making excuses in my head for their lies and broken promises.
My "friend" is not the person I thought she was and I'm heartbroken again. I don't know whether to confront her for her deceit and expose her lies or do what I usually do and gracefully accept that she's obviously no friend of mine and move on.
What's better the honest get it all out there approach or dignified break away from her?

A dignified break away is probably best, if you can do it! No use stirring up bad feeling.

Just move on. She is obviously no longer interested in your friendship.

Hold your head up high. Always best.

All this "taking the high road" stuff is overrated IMO. There's a great deal to be said for giving someone both barrels; at least you get your say, and they might think twice before mugging the next nice person off.

Women are socialised to be non-confrontational and it allows both men and women to get away with behaving badly to others.

(Obviously this depends on what happened. If she's stabbed you in the back by trying to get off with your partner, this advice stands. If she's knocked over a mug of tea on your white carpet, then this might be a little over the top!)

I love pocketsaviour, so I'm going to change my mind and say 'give her both barrels and then hold your head up high as you walk away'.

Yeah move on. Find someone who deserves your smile and honesty. Just don't expect too much from people because eventually they are gonna let you done.

Trouble is when you give someone a piece of your mind you open up the way for the to do the same back and you may hear more than you bargained for. Hurtful things may be said on both sides that can never be taken back. If someone is not behaving in a way that you like then ditch them. Just accept that it was not meant to be and that they cannot be the friend you want or need. Not their fault. They are who they are and you are who you are. We are all different.