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I just dont get it

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PrincessBooBoo · 14/03/2016 22:07

I would love to have a partner, but there are no decent men my age (50) about. My libido is at an all time low - I want to be with someone, but in reality I think I just need a friend who I can go places or just watch tv with, preferably male. I get lonely at the weekend when the kids are with their partners and all my female mates are with their families. Is it just me or are there others out there with this problem. If so how did they overcome it?

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mum2mum99 · 14/03/2016 22:13

have you got hobbies? Check out the meet ups and target them to 50 something if possible. Divorces or single events. Online dating? Have fun and someone might come along.

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PrincessBooBoo · 14/03/2016 22:16

Done Meet up, sick of trying to make small talk all the time because there are no regulars. Online dating - been there I'm afraid and done it to death. Ive been trying to 'have fun' it just doesn't work for me. Sorry, just on a downer as spent all weekend on my own again

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mum2mum99 · 14/03/2016 22:19

Do things you love and that makes you feel good just for yourself. Life is too short to wait.

HeddaGarbled · 14/03/2016 22:35

If you don't want to have sex with them, why do you want your "friend" to be male? Wouldn't other single women serve your purpose? Or married women who are happy to meet up at weekends?

I can't imagine that there are many men who would be interested in becoming the "partner" of a woman who doesn't want to have sex with them.

I am sure that there are decent men of 50 about but I doubt watching TV would be the highlight of their weekends.

haveacupoftea · 14/03/2016 22:40

There's a man in his 50s another poster is talking about in a different thread who doesn't want any sex! So they do exist.

haveacupoftea · 14/03/2016 22:41

Sorry I meant to add, have you had your hormone levels checked to see why your libido is low?

TheNaze73 · 15/03/2016 08:44

Sadly, I think what you are looking for is in a very narrow envelope I think. Not all but, a lot of divorced/separated guys, tend to go for younger women (no idea why personally) but, to find a guy but, just as a friend & to have no sexual contact seems like quite a specific ask

springydaffs · 15/03/2016 08:53

Aim for and build friendships with people/women who are single. Then you've stuff to do at the weekend. Mad to have all your friends in relationships - no wonder you feel lonely and out of it! Walking groups are a good way to meet the same people regularly eg.

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PrincessBooBoo · 16/03/2016 22:34

Thanks for your thoughts. Yes ,maybe women Frinda are the way to go

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LovelyFriend · 17/03/2016 00:57

What about volunteering? I've been involved with a local cause lately and it really has give me a fab non work/kids focus.

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