I've started to fancy other blokes for the first time ever since being in a relationship... is that the beginning of the end?

[QuootiepieTheNewYearsAss]

I never fancy other blokes, the thought of another man repulses me, but the last few days ive started to day dream abit about it (not in a sexual way), looking at blokes on TV and wondering "what if". I started to do that at the end of my last (and first) relationship, and not long later we split. Surely it isn't normal to think about other blokes while in a relationship? I already feel some sort of cheat in a way...

DH has Pink's calender on his wall at work [jealous], we are one of those couples that don't have a "its OK if they are famous" list as we both have conntact with them in RL. But we do both admit to fancying people, though I wouldn't tell him who I fancy that he knows.

I know what Quootiepie means, though, because when I fell in love, I suddenly stopped having crushes on men on the telly and in movies, and it was just because my life was so intensely romantic. So if that ends, maybe it's natural to think, ah, I don't feel the same way any more.

Early romantic love, as we're always being told, only lasts a couple of years at most - that crazy obsessive flush of love that's physical. But what replaces it isn't really safe and boring, it's in many ways stronger. But I think we do lose the obsessive feeling, of which that exclusive wanting, wanting only him, is a big part. I started fancying men on the telly again about 1.5-2 years in, and very happy I was about it, because it made things like BBC costume dramas fun again.

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I have just started to open my eyes again 12 years in Wouldnt do anything about it though.
Dp didnt stop eyeing up people for a day, so I feel no guilt.

crushes are a good way to describe it.