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I want him to leave

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Wilfsmum159 · 09/02/2016 19:20

After only six weeks of marriage my husband accused me of having an affair. I have not had an affair with anyone but he refuses to believe me and has used this as a 'stick to beat me with'. We are now 18 months further on and I can't cope with it anymore. The house we live in is mortgaged but in my sole name. He contributes jointly towards the household bills including the mortgage. I've offered to pay him back what he has contributed towards the mortgage but he still won't leave. Can I boot him out?

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mummymeister · 09/02/2016 19:43

wilfsmum ask for this to be moved to relationships. there are some really knowledgable and helpful people on that board. you will get more responses than here. good luck and so sorry to hear that its all gone wrong so quickly after you got married.

ridemesideways · 09/02/2016 19:46

Whose names are on the title deed? If just yours too, like the mortgage, then I believe you can change the locks and tell him you'll be contacting the police if he returns to harass you.

ridemesideways · 09/02/2016 19:50

If he's not a registered proprietor then he may have short term rights to the home as you're married, but he'd have to go to court to invoke them

Nottodaythankyouorever · 09/02/2016 19:52

Whose names are on the title deed? If just yours too, like the mortgage, then I believe you can change the locks and tell him you'll be contacting the police if he returns to harass you.

Incorrect. The OP is married therefore it is a marital asset whether he is on the deeds or not.

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Wilfsmum159 · 09/02/2016 19:58

I'm new to this, how do I ask for this message to be moved?

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ridemesideways · 09/02/2016 19:59

OP can force him to leave, but he will only be permitted re-entry if he invokes his right to live there by going to court. The right to live there is only valid as long as they are married, so OP can be beginning divorce proceedings too.

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Wilfsmum159 · 09/02/2016 20:04

The house and mortgage are in my sole name

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wowfudge · 09/02/2016 20:04

OP - it is highly unlikely any court would say the house was a marital asset after only 18 months of marriage. Presumably you can afford it on your own?

Report your own post OP. That'll do the trick.

ridemesideways · 09/02/2016 20:13

Has he been physically or emotionally threatening when refusing to leave?

ThisHorseCalledDonny · 09/02/2016 20:18

You can get the thread moved by clicking the report button to the right of a post and asking MNHQ to move it

Or just say so on thread and one of us will get it moved for you

MNHQ

PresidentOliviaMumsnet · 09/02/2016 20:19

We've moved this out of AIBU for you
Kindest
MNHQ

Shutthatdoor · 09/02/2016 20:41

The right to live there is only valid as long as they are married, so OP can be beginning divorce proceedings too.

He doesn't have to leave until the divorce and and any financial are settled

Nottodaythankyouorever · 09/02/2016 20:43

How long were you together pre marriage?

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Wilfsmum159 · 09/02/2016 20:51

We lived together for about three years before we married but not all in this house. We had a rented house before that then when we moved here the building society wouldn't add him to the deeds or mortgage because of his personal debts from the time of his previous marriage.

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whattodowiththepoo · 09/02/2016 20:57

Add message | Report | Message poster ridemesideways Tue 09-Feb-16 19:46:35
Whose names are on the title deed? If just yours too, like the mortgage, then I believe you can change the locks and tell him you'll be contacting the police if he returns to harass you.

Easy tiger, that's not quite as true.

Shutthatdoor · 09/02/2016 21:13

The house was purchased whilst you have been together.

You really need legal advice.

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