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Why we love our DPs

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WanderingNotLost · 11/01/2016 23:08

I've noticed recently that a lot of the threads on here are populated with threads concerning abusive/cheating or otherwise not very loving DPs. Which does make sense, nobody would post looking for advice on a relationships board if their DP was perfect.
But I thought it might be nice if we have a board where we can share the lovely things our DPs do; for one thing it is always nice to have some happy stories to read amongst all the negativity, and also to show our fellow MNers that there are people out there who know how to treat their DPs with love and respect. I'll start...

Those of you who peruse the night owl thread on chat may know something about my recent troubles with illness and insomnia. I was starting to get really miserable when last night, once again I couldn't sleep. Having woken him up several times with my fidgeting my DP suggested we move to the sofa in the sitting room, pointing out that I never seem to have trouble falling asleep on him whilst we're watching tv. So we did, and within 20 minutes I was out cold. My lovely DP then stayed awake, sitting up on the sofa from about 4 in the morning until he had to get ready for work, just so I could sleep for a couple of hours. Now he's not perfect and a lot of things he does drive me nuts; but things like this remind me that I'm lucky to have him.

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annandale · 11/01/2016 23:12

I love my dh so much it hurts sometimes. Much more than I loved him in the early days. I sometimes think the pain is all the bad times rumbling away in the background, I haven't forgotten them but they don't matter and in a way they are part of the relationship now.

I think I love his integrity and kindness most of all. I really admire him as a person.

Whisperingeye1 · 11/01/2016 23:53

He can make me laugh in any situation and he's my best friend. He drives me crazy sometimes but mostly I think I am lucky to have him.

NotTheSpiceOfLife · 11/01/2016 23:56

I used to think people that said their DPs were their best friends were full of shit.

But my man definitely is. He accepts me, and loves me in spite of my many, many faults. He is kind and gentle, and funny and warm. He is fiercely loyal and will always have my back no matter what.

It took me a long time to find him, but I know that he is my one true love. I love him more every day.

Mrsantithetic · 11/01/2016 23:58

He is just awesome. He works away mon to Fri because the money is triple what he or we together even, could earn locally. I know he misses the dcs terribly and hopefully me a bit

He is bloody useless with anything house related. Has ridiculously expensive hobbies and is dead pan serious most of the time but he is an amazing, patient and kind man who has made an even better dad than he has partner.

PeachPantaloons · 12/01/2016 00:00

I love that he (usually) takes all my sleep-deprived, tired whining and bitching in his stride (we have a 9mo needy baby who's a bad sleeper) and makes sure I get at least one decent meal a day even after 12 hours at work.

And that he orders me surprise books

PizzaConnoisseur · 12/01/2016 00:10

I don't think I appreciate my other half enough. He is honestly one of the nicest people I've ever met! he is loyal to his family and friends, he is a good father, he works hard, he's loving, caring and kind, and will apologise even when I'm in the wrong

I have never met a single person who has ever had a bad word to say to him, or about him. I feel like he was sent from above, I am more than lucky to have him!

OneNightTimeMenaceStrikesBack · 12/01/2016 00:14

he's kind, good tempered, loyal, loving, thoughtful an genuinely one of the nicest people i've ever met. he loves me for everything i am,faults and all and even though he isn't perfect, he's perfect for me and i am lucky to have him. He is my best friend and I miss him every minute he isn't with me.

maras2 · 12/01/2016 00:37

I've loved mine for 48 years.He's the loveliest,kindest husband,Dad and Grandad.At this moment he's lying next to me in a post coital coma (,sorry TMI )snoring and dribbling with a beatific smile on his face and all I can think is how much love him.My mobility is somewhat impaired so he does the lions share of housework and cooking.Since we retired,we do 3 days a week childcare to save our kids some nursery fees and it's wonderful to see how good he is with the grandkids just as he was with our kids 35 years ago.

StarkyTheDirewolf · 12/01/2016 00:47

He is wonderful and I really do count myself lucky to have my Dh. He is kind, generous, and makes me laugh. He does as much as possible to make me happy and look after me. And I love doing the same for him. He loves me for all the good bits and bad and wants the best for me every day. He is my best friend and I think he's amazing, even when he's getting right on my tits I couldn't imagine being without him.

houseHuntinginmanchester · 12/01/2016 01:07

His ability to be consistently patient with my quick temper and morning grumpiness.

The way he can wake up and just start hoovering. I'm serious

annandale · 12/01/2016 01:10

that made me LOL house

houseHuntinginmanchester · 12/01/2016 01:24

annan I am amazed every single time. It's like a new thing to me every time it happens

janaus · 12/01/2016 04:18

Thank you for such a lovely post. Things have not been so great for me lately. But DH has always been a great father to our adult children, and now an amazing Pop to the grand children. Focusing on the positive things, he is always generous, and makes me laugh, I am hoping we can re find ourselves and get the good times back.

AndrastesKnickerweasels · 12/01/2016 04:58

He brings home surprise books, fancy tea, lindt chocolate teddies, colouring books (latest one is by Charles Vess ) and trashy magazines.
Never makes a peep if I'm knackered and can't be arsed cooking, just orders Indian or something. Also, he eats anything.
Has yet to do more than grump gently at DD(4).
Is madly patient with my irritability and mood swings.

Gives champion hugs and backrubs, and has really warm hands.
Doesn't snore often, and when he does, rolls over with a tiny poke.

Quite fond of him, really. I suspect I shall keep him.

Mrswinkler · 12/01/2016 05:05

Aw what a lovely thread you lucky ladies!

I'm single but it makes me happy knowing that it can work out I reckon I just picked the wrong ones. It says more about me than them as a couple are still good friends we just lost that spark...

Give 'em a hug from me!

Holly34 · 12/01/2016 05:22

DH is the kindest soft and patience man I know! He's positive when I am negative at times! Will cook, clean and put up with miserable mood swings I am 36 weeks pregnant. He is truly a man to have by your side, my friends were right all along, I just took forever to see through him. Thank God I held on to him no matter what we went through, Today he makes me feel complete Loved and cherished.

FrankUnderwoodsWife · 12/01/2016 06:03

My DH is an annoying pain in the backside but I love him so hard it hurts!

He is the kindest, most thoughtful person I know. He loves me and DD with every cell in his body and everything he does is for us. If he was ever unfaithful to me it would destroy my faith in humanity. I just can't imagine it happening.

Is he annoying, yes intensely so sometimes, and I have had the odd day dream of leaving him - usually when I have PMT and he has dared open his mouth to speak to me.

He's not perfect but neither am I. We are each other's best friends, and are totally mentally in sync with each other. We dont spend every minute in each other's pockets and don't do PDA's.

I think we work because we totally trust, respect and are kind to each other. My parents used to argue and the language they threw at each other was appalling. I would never speak to anyone like they did to each other, least of all the man I married.

He makes me laugh every day. His intelligence and wit are one of his most attractive features. Oh and he has a body like this.......

Friendlystories · 12/01/2016 06:46

DH is kind and funny, has and shows massive respect for his parents, my DM and the select few friends and other family members who actually warrant it. Our relationship has struggled recently but some elements have never wavered, I suffer with depression and anxiety and find going out difficult on bad days, he will take care of anything I don't feel up to doing shopping etc however long a day he's had at work without ever complaining or criticising me. He supports me without question, doesn't appear to notice my faults and knows exactly how to cheer me up when I really need it. He's not perfect but neither am I and I believe he wants to make our marriage work even if he doesn't always know how to fix what's wrong. He adores his kids and he's always done right by his DC from his first marriage even when the ex has made it hard, he's very much a hands on Dad and is brilliant with our DD. He's fantastic in a crisis, I lean heavily on him at times and he never lets me down. I love him very much and really hope we make it because I'd hate to be without him.

FrankUnderwoodsWife · 12/01/2016 06:50

I just want to thank the OP for starting this thread. I don't often take the chance to appreciate my DH. It was lovely to take 5 minutes as really think about why I love him and am with him.

Congratulations to all you wonderful people who managed to find solid life long partners.

To the people who haven't, I really do believe there is someone for everyone, it's just a matter of keeping your eyes and heart open the the possibility.

ValancyJane · 12/01/2016 07:31

DP is the nicest guy I know, we were good friends for years before we got together. He has never treated me with anything other than respect, always listens to my point of view, and has no temper whatsoever. He is incredibly lovely, and always does little things like make my packed lunch and bring me cups of coffee in bed. He does his fair share of cooking and cleaning around the house, aside from when I had hideous morning sickness and he pretty much did everything for three months solid without a single complaint. We don't argue and shout and scream, but on the odd occasion I have told him I've been unhappy with something, we've discussed it and he's apologised (and vice versa). He is always nice to the cat, even the other day when the cat turned his computer off three times in a row and I would have been pissed off. We recently had a difference of opinion when I tried to buy my expensive face wash out of my Christmas money, and he told me quite firmly that face wash wasn't a Christmas present and that it would come out of the general money (despite the fact we're trying to save money now that I'm on maternity leave, he felt really strongly that my Christmas money should go towards my hobby or something special). Also, he makes me laugh and he's bloody good in bed!

I appreciate him so much more because my ex was an absolute twat of the highest order who used to shout at me and get really aggressive, belittle me, would never let me make any decisions, would criticise me in front of people, would fly off the handle at the drop of a hat (and you never could tell what would set him off), would never dream of making me a cup of tea, slept on the sofa for the last six months of our relationship so he could watch porn and chat to other women, and generally treated me like utter shit for four long years. I love DP to bits for himself, but I appreciate and value him so much more because he's so lovely and treats me so well (though he just sees it as normal).

EricNorthmanSucks · 12/01/2016 07:31

DH is a rock.
He is beyond supportive ( even of my most out there ideas - we might not follow through but he doesn't dismiss outright).

He isn't complicated or unpredictable which brings peace of mind.

He is very single minded which he turns to his advantage at work.

He is funny. Yes a cliche but I love a man who makes me laugh.

IsItIorAreTheOthersCrazy · 12/01/2016 09:44

DH is amazing. We have been going through fertility treatment that at times has turned me into a mad hormonal crying mess and he has been wonderful - he's wiped my tears, had the "why us" conversation a million times and has this relentless optimism that gets us through the hard parts.

He dances with me randomly while I'm cooking and makes me laugh every single day.

We've been together a long time, we've grown up together and I think I love him more as time goes on

Binders1 · 12/01/2016 10:27

What a lovely thread. So nice to read all these nice things - thank you for sharing them. I'm not jealous - honestly! (I'd insert an envy face if I could but it's not working on this desktop).

I'm sure all your DP's know how lucky they are to have you too.

Mrskeats · 12/01/2016 10:42

My dp is fantastic. He's the kindest, most loving and patient man I have ever known. He's hardworking, intelligent and makes me a coffee every morning.
I feel very lucky to have him

chelle792 · 12/01/2016 11:10

I was cross with DH when I opened this thread - he managed to forget that his MOT expired in Sept and that his road tax is due 1st Feb. Admin is definitely not his strong point. This thread has snapped me out of that and reminded me of his strengths. I'm going to message him and tell him how much I love him now.

He brought me tea and toast in bed this morning. Cooked dinner for us and his parents last night and is the most patient and kind man I know. He does a good share of the housework, spends a lot of time doing the house up, evening cooking, a large majority of the dog walking.

I'm sure I can just about forgive him for this admin induced stress he's put me in

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