Apparently im not to be trusted to pass on xmas cards but I am trusted to raise his kids ...

[smokedkipper]

hi all

stbxh has (of his own choice) virtually no contact with dcs (17,14,12,11)

stbxh sent their xmas cards to our local church under my cousin s name ams v she brought them round today.

I have gone over and above trying to maintain contact between him and the kids.

I am fucking furious with him playing the "she v won't let me see them " crap ........... and breathe........
.just needed to vent.

Twat. Him, not you, obvs.

And you are with him because...?

I don't think she is with him is she?

Sorry, read another thread and replied to this one

My mistake. Accept my apologies, love

And yes, he is a twat

lol anyfucker

and yes he is a twat , but believes , REALLY believes hes the victim and I'm the evil bitch Queen.

Why are exs so often like that ???

oops any fucker.

ah well, at least you have a witness that they received the cards anyway.

and ditto to being a twat.

definitely a twat my dds bio dad has no contact i asked them if they were prepared to be reasonable and make a family based arrangement when the csa winds up the case the reply i got back was no we don't trust you we would rather pay through the csa well that's all well and good but they don't fucking pay they owe money and ive raised this child alone for almost 15 years without input financial or otherwise from them so i decided to take the high ground and ignore it all fuck it hey ho pip and dandy ive got this far alone i shall simply continue to do so

Don't try to do anything with him to maintain contact. Plan your life without him featured at all and if he does decide to get his shit together - bonus.
Don't fight him about anything. I found that as long as i argued with my ex, he felt justified in being arsey the whole time. When i was pleasant and factual, he had no-one left to argue with and just sounded fucking stupid.

my ex used to be hilarious he used to have "arguments" with me on the phone in front of his friends he would have a whole other conversation than reality i used to hang up in the end

I love the fact that I am the 'evil bitch queen' when all I did was fucking divorce him because I couldn't and wouldn't put up with his shitty EA any MORE. The fact that I was nearly horizontal with doormattage-characteristics didn't matter. I was desperate, begging, upset, sad, despairing and generally pleading for him to be kind and/or caring towards me. Then when he wasn't, I finally, finally pulled the fucking plug. I was someone to be kicked around. I was the inadequate wife, the rubbish mother, the fucked up lazy half-wit that could barely be trusted around HIS children. Then I filed for divorce and became an all-conquering Maleficent. Ok then. I'm happy with that. Give me the fucking Anti-Christ any time. Let me be your nemisis, you shithead. Take that and FUCK RIGHT OFF.

Take it and run with it OP. Amazing that they can take the role of victim, when they have been vile, abusive and disgusting. Well, Let It Be. Merry Christmas to Anti-Christs everywhere.

wow hill ,kudos to you! Please tell MN how we can all get up the necessary to do the same?

Thanks amarmai and Merry Christmas. I think it's the wine...xx