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Positive thread - little things your DH/DP does for you

33 replies

OnADarkDesertHighway · 09/12/2015 13:40

My back was fucking killing me yesterday and DP run me a nice warm bath to relax in.

I frequently get back and shoulder rubs and massages. I do not have back problems BTW it gives me gip 2 or 3 times a year for a few days then all fine again.

DP brings me back flowers most times he goes to the shops.

Tells me daily he loves me and is always telling me how great he thinks I am.

He tells me how much he appreciates me supporting him when times are a tad tough.

In short he makes me feel loved, cared for and appreciated. Kinda how it should be but sadly ain't for many people.

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Skiptonlass1 · 09/12/2015 13:50

Cup of tea. Every morning. :)

Claraoswald36 · 09/12/2015 14:01

Dp bought me an electric blanket because I have Reynards and I struggle with the cold

3perfectweemen · 09/12/2015 14:20

He. Kisses my cheek when he thinks I'm sleeping. He runs me baths , he lets me lie in some mornings and he cleans. I came home from work one night he had cleared cupboards cleaned fridge out washed wall tiles polished organised all the wardrobes in bedrooms hoovered stairs washed every floor. He puts me and children first. He would give me his last penny. Tells me I'm beautiful even when I know I'm looking rough (heavy pregnant).
He runs me baths all the time , most of all he is a brilliant father.

ChoclolateOrange · 09/12/2015 14:27

Mine always calls when he says he is going to. Always. I've never asked him to do that but I adore him for it, especially because I was once married to a lying cheating twunt. I feel I never have to have a moments distrust of DP.

Archer26 · 09/12/2015 14:39

Cup of tea Every single morning since we moved in together.

Sometimes he brings me breakfast in bed and puts a brown sauce love heart on the toast.

He is possibly the least romantic slushy person I know so when he does this it makes me happy inside. Blush

Boosiehs · 09/12/2015 14:44

Cup of tea in bed.

Doing all the cooking and cleaning (when cleaner isn't here) and everything else as I have PGP and just want to lay on the sofa!

shoeaddict83 · 09/12/2015 14:44

My DP sends me random texts telling me he loves me in the middle of the day just to make me smile. He is always complimenting me too.

Has cup of tea ready for when i get home usually

Buys flowers for no reason

Has completely restored my faith and trust after a very bad relationship before, just makes me feel very content and happier than ive ever been. very lucky girl Blush

LaurieLemons · 09/12/2015 14:58

  • Let's me have a lay in some days which I am so thankful for
  • Texts/calls me throughout the day
  • Back massages or runs me a bath in the morning
  • If he's been working a lot he will really make the effort to get more time off the next week so we can spend quality time together

I read somewhere the secret to a successful relationship is to treat your partner like it's their birthday every day Smile

Smorgasboard · 09/12/2015 15:51

On his weekends off when sometimes I am working, he will set his alarm 5 mins before mine and make me a coffee :-)

HelpfulChap · 09/12/2015 15:55

Too many things to mention. That's why she has been the love if my life for over 35 years and always will be.

wonderingsoul · 09/12/2015 16:04

He compliments me and makes me feel like the only girl in the world.

He's all ways up for a cuddle.

He remembers the small things. Example. I was doing my son's birthday food shop and the week before I forgot he had asked for root beer. He had remembered and picked it up for him, which made my son's day.

He calls me bautifull like it was my name.

There's more but I won't go on. He's just left today for 1 n half weeks to go on holiday to see he's family and now iv got all soppy and miss him.

KinkyAfro · 09/12/2015 16:13

My DP kisses me goodnight and tells me he loves me - even when he thinks I'm asleep. I often pretend to be asleep as he likes to talk at bedtimes and I just want to sleep
Makes an amazing Sunday lunch even when he's been working
Brings me little things that he thinks I'll like, like a book, a new chocolate bar etc.
Texts me every morning wishing me a good day and telling me he loves me
Not for me but he'll do anything for my mum and I luffs him for that

ImtheChristmasCarcass · 09/12/2015 16:13

Never leaves the house or hangs up the phone without saying 'I love you'. But this is mutual, we both do that.

Pours my coffee or drink before his own. I don't know why this means so much to me, but it does. I try to do the same.

Always says 'Thank You, that hit the spot' for a meal, even if all I've done was get takeaway. And taught our sons to do the same.

Takes the dog out first thing in the morning and last thing at night and/or in the rain and nasty weather, even if it's my 'turn'.

Always lets me know if he's running late.

MistressMerryWeather · 09/12/2015 16:17

He reads to me.

I suffer from really horrible depression at times and when it's really bad I can't focus on my books, which for me is awful (I'm a huge book worm and always have one near by).

One day about 6 years ago he took the book I was trying to read from me and started reading it out loud. I can't tell you how much it has helped over the years.

He also does all the voices Xmas Grin. I love the big soppy arse.

OnceAMeerNotAlwaysAMeer · 09/12/2015 16:29

always makes me a cuppa in the mornings.

has stuck with and worked -hard- on the relationship through the ups and downs.

Really is a hands on loving dad. Needs the odd nudge now and then over certain things, but he tries to listen and do them.

Picks up the slack when I'm struggling with ME, even though it means he has to do much more work than is fair. Really appreciate that.

Loves us all so much. Appreciate that, too.

PeekABooPinky101 · 09/12/2015 16:29

I don't live with my OH and so he'll text each morning to say 'good morning' he lets me know he gets home safe, even tho he knows I'll be asleep.

He always asks how I am, and listens if I rant. He never gets cross, and always has something sensible and helpful to say.

He has the best hugs and doesn't mind giving them whatever he is in the middle of.

He helps me around the house. Diy things, sorting crap out, buying cat food.

I keep a tub of cat food close to where I feed her she makes holes in the bags/boxes if I leave it in that and he always makes sure he fills it when he is here.

He cares for my dd as tho she were his. He doesn't mind when she climbs into bed, when she gets travel sick or when she's having a moment. He cancelled plans to look after her when my childcare couldn't. He came to her nursery evening and takes an interest in her.

When his little sister had a really rude moment to me they first time she met me, in front of his whole family, he told her she was out of order and that it wasn't on. He made sure I was ok and knew that she was out of line.

I'm very lucky I found him and that we both do what we can for each other.

Seeyounearertime · 09/12/2015 16:30

She sleeps next to me every night and not someone else. That enough to make me the luckiest and happiest man I know.
(Never mind the fact she works hard to provide for our little family which allows me to be a SAHD Grin )

momb · 09/12/2015 16:38

On frosty mornings her gets up early to defrost my car as well as his own.
All my neighbours have commented how lucky I am!

ImtheChristmasCarcass · 09/12/2015 16:41
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OnADarkDesertHighway · 10/12/2015 14:24

Heartening to hear so many lovely stories.

I get lots of lovely tender kisses here too.

Mistress the reading story touched me. When my mum died she was halfway thru a book and I read the rest to her up the cemetery. I was sad she never had the chance to finish reading it and I thought it was the right thing to do.

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findingmyfeet12 · 10/12/2015 14:32

Cups of tea in bed, messages me randomly to say he loves me, unexpected (extravagant Blush ) gifts when it's not my birthday or an anniversary, makes me a hot water bottle at night as I always have cold feet, also lets me warm my icy cold feet against him at night.

phoenix1973 · 10/12/2015 15:05

Shouldn't have read this thread. Lucky people for having such lovely o.h - especially the lady who suffers with bad depression sometimes and whose partner reads to her. Really lovely xxxxx

ValancyJane · 10/12/2015 17:41

He brings me coffee in bed, every morning, because I hate mornings. He will defrost my car when it's cold and I'm running late for work. He will always give me the 'nicest' looking cake when we buy a pack of two. He tucks my feet in when I kick the covers off and he thinks I'm asleep. When he goes to the supermarket alone he will always buy things he knows I like, including what we call the 'posh' toilet roll, even though he thinks it's a waste of money. And he genuinely believes all this is normal... Love him.

JasmineBuckles · 10/12/2015 19:00

When we've had a particularly nice day, even if he's organised and paid for it, he always says thank you. I do too, obviously.

He tells me I'm clever and funny and beautiful all the time. The first two make me feel really proud.

He accepted my smelly old dog into his house, which had never had an animal in. He now buys her a new toy each week.

I love him millions and millions.

HyacinthBouquetNo1 · 10/12/2015 19:15

Mmm, buys me chocolates every week😆
Helps with housework even tho he works long hours in stressful job (i have health problems)
He also defrosts my car when doing his if i am going out and he is ready first
He is always there if ever i need him, he would drop everything for me
He always jokes with me and we have a good laugh
He puts up with me, he must be a saint😀