I have a friend who I'd class as someone I care about a lot, but she comes from quite a damaged background and I'd say she is abnormally defensive, cold at time, very secretive, mistrusting and easily aggravated.
She falls out with people a lot, and she has a tendency to expect a lot more than she gives and I don't think she realises this. She is impossible to talk to about these things because she is so defensive. She would rather push people away than see who really cares about her.
She has had a tendency over the years to attach to "new people" and does everything for them and then falls out with them and cuts them off for dead. I have been ditched quite a few times for one of her "new" people and am pretty easygoing so it's never bothered me. She has always seemed a bit jealous of the friendships I have with others in our group, but to be fair they have been more consistent and more "there" over the years whereas she has come and gone.
Right now though she has been giving me the silent treatment (utterly ignoring all my calls and messages) for weeks over something very small. I feel a bit tired of it.
What would you do?
Talking to her about it is out of the question. If I try and raise it by sending a message explaining how it makes me feel and that I care about her she will respond aggressively. The usual pattern with this is to let her stonewall me for months; then she comes back like nothing happenned.
I am a bit sick of it though!